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Do you ever just get tired of it?

Started by notyouraverageguy, August 11, 2010, 03:24:38 PM

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notyouraverageguy

Sorry if this is in the wrong section.

Have you ever felt irritated, or bugged, of binding?

Im stuck in a rut.
I've been binding with a binder for about 6 months, and I can't go out without it. I will not be in public without some sort of bindage on my chest. I can't stand having them pop out and have the female figure.
BUT some days my binder bugs the crud out of me. Its not uncomfortable, it just bugs. I guess its hard to explain.
Its more like, I hate that it pops out when I put my arms forward or back. Or when I sit, and even lay. If it would just lay flat against me always, and give me that really flat look all the time, then it wouldn't really bug me so much.
But I get tired of it, idk.

Is this just something only I've experienced, or have any of you guys that bind felt this way also?

I want top surgery already, so I won't have to worry about it. I don't want to have to bind anymore, but I have to.
:/
Gender expression is NOT gender identity.

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Nathan.

I have a love hate relationship with my binder, I hate my chest so I love that the binder makes them seem flatter but god do I hate wearing it all the time, it's so annoying.  :-\
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lilacwoman

we MtFs feel exactly the same sort of problem every morning when we wake and feel the stubble and we have to go see our faces as male until we get the closest shave and dried and the skin has perked up a bit.
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Silver

Yes I do. I'm constantly stretching and taking deep breaths because it bothers me that I can't inhale fully. But I can't stand my chest without, either. It disgusts me.

Edit: Hmm, also, it makes me quite hot/sweaty/uncomfortable in summer (CA summers, they are frustrating) and also makes it hard to run so I've pretty much dropped running.
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Trickster

I hate the fact that I even have to use one. I like that it makes my chest flat, i hate that I have to make my chest flat to begin with. :s
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Raven

I hate wearing a binder to it just bugs the crud out of me but if i don't wear it I get nervous and what not cause of my chest size idk its a love hate thing I have with myself and my binder heh
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Fencesitter

I hate my binders so much that I almost never use them though I don't like having visible breasts either. Feeling the binders on my body reminds me all the time that I have breasts, without them I tend to ignore that I have any.

Unfortunately, my breasts are visible without a binder, but they are small and mostly read as men's boobs (which is not beautiful but less annoying than wearing a binder). I pass all the time in spite of them, and they don't even out me when a couple of friends of mine (who don't know that I'm trans) hug me. Only since I found that out about two months ago, plus had a couple of other experiences which have made me somewhat more relaxed about my male-female jigsaw puzzled body, my posture in public has become better. My back thanks me for this.

Unfortunately, I feel very embarrassed without a binder when I meet people who don't know me well but know I'm trans.
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madzam

I hate having to wear a binder, but  I would hate not wearing it even more.

Why binding sucks:
* I can't breath that well in it and I get exhausted fast.
* Sometimes I have to take a break from wearing it for 2 days because my upper body hurts so bad and I can't breath right even when I'm not wearing the damn thing.
* Pulling $40 out of the air when I need a new one.
* You can't swim in it unless you like taking off a wet binder, or you have a velcro one, but even then it doesn't bind well!
* It gets hot, sweaty, and just nasty in the summer time

Can't think of much that I like about having to wear a binder...
It does keep me a bit warner in the winter >.>
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Yagami

It was hot, constricting, and I was always worried that someone would be able to see it. Before I had a binder, I would wrap various makeshift binders around my chest with safety pins and wear a vest on top of that. It was such a huge relief to never have to wear one again. I already hate summer heat enough, and that thing (and the things underneath it) just made it so much worse.
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Elijah3291

exactly!

I have been binding about 12 months now.. and over the summer i havent been binding, and its weird.. i hate that my boobs are out.. with no support its so gross. BUT i dont wanna wear the damned thing, so tight and anoying

and YES I hate when i wanna lay and itmakes like an air bubble.. it just reminds me that i'm wearing it, its so annoying, i wish it would hug my body no matter my position
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xAndrewx

I used to love my binder before it stopped doing much good. Truth is, I could pass before with just a tight sports bra but it's amazing what putting 100lbs on can do to a almost flat chest. Reasons I hate my binder:

1. It gets over 100 degrees almost every summer day here in Florida
2. I have to wear something under it or it bruises my underarms
3. It gets hot having to have two layers under a shirt, not to mention if I want to layer a t-shirt and a button down t-shirt over it
4. I can't, like most of us it seems, afford a new one for a while and when I can it's either too tight or too loose I guess I'm between a medium and a large in my current binder  :-\

But at least I have it to help hide these horrible lumps of skin that should not exist on my male form :)

Squirrel698

Truth be told I really like my binder.  It flattens my chest without being to uncomfortable and helps a bit with my posture.  I think it breathes good and I really don't feel to warm.  I suppose it makes me feel secure with it's steady squeeze.

There are a few things I don't like.

1. Putting it on every morning is a pain as I have to twist myself up in knots to get the job done
2. I don't like that it can be felt under clothing and give me away when being hugged or on the dance floor
3. I only have one and I've given away my bras so nothing to wear when I'm washing it.  My breasts are pretty small tho so not that big of a deal

"It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul"
Invictus - William Ernest Henley
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Greg

Some mornings I just stand around for several minutes when I should be getting dressed doing nothing because I can't stand the thought of putting my binder on. I hate it less during the winter since it keeps me warm.
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Zack

Yeah I don't like it, especially because I can barely breathe, so I usually just wear a sports bra and a few layers instead.
"Politics is the art of controlling your environment."

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Tad

luckily mine lays flat against me at all times.. I just hate at about the 7 hour mark.. I feel like puking.. but that feeling goes away after an hour. Normally avoid keeping it on for that long.. but it happens.. Really.. I like the thing.  THe thing I hate the most.. is taking it off at the end of the day and remembering that my chest isn't compltely flat.

I can get away without wearing it.. just wearing a tshirt and a bra.. but it destroys my self confidence. So binder me up scotty!
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jmaxley

I can't always wear one because when my asthma is acting up really bad, it's just so hard to breathe.  It's hard to breathe in it even when my asthma isn't acting up.  I don't even bind that tight.  The few times I do bind tight, it's like wearing a sleeveless straightjacket (although that's a bit what it is, a straightjacket for the moobs).  Some days when I just can't stand it, I'll wear a tight sports bra with a couple layers of shirts.  One good thing about being overweight, when I do this last option, people just assume they're a bit larger than average man-boobs, cause I've passed when doing this.
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notyouraverageguy

Woah, I didn't know so many other guys felt this way about their binders.
They get annoying, not really uncomfortable and I don't hate them, they just bug to have to wear sometimes.
Seems like the ones that don't feel the same are the ones with small chests, you guys are lucky.
Some of us can't go without our binders, we need them or our bits show.

Quote from: Elijah on August 11, 2010, 05:33:12 PM
exactly!

I have been binding about 12 months now.. and over the summer i havent been binding, and its weird.. i hate that my boobs are out.. with no support its so gross. BUT i dont wanna wear the damned thing, so tight and anoying

and YES I hate when i wanna lay and itmakes like an air bubble.. it just reminds me that i'm wearing it, its so annoying, i wish it would hug my body no matter my position
I don't think I could ever go without it, in public at least, or some type of binding. Only at home.
And I wish that too, that'd itd hug my body in any position cause that's when it gets to me!
And I get all paranoid and uncomfortable.
So I try to stand everywhere I am, when im out. Ppl always tell me why don't I sit, its mainly because my binder stays flat against me and gives me the flat chest look only when im standing.
It does get really hot here, especially in summer, and I do have to layer. A wife beater, binder, then a tee shirt. Not too bad, but still hot. Im a warm bodied person as it is, it just sucks. I want to be able to walk around without a shirt already, or just wear a wife beater without having to worry about those bits showing.
:/
*sigh*

I really thought I was alone in this, im glad someone understands me.
Gender expression is NOT gender identity.

Defective Catastrophe.
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notyouraverageguy

Quote from: Greg on August 11, 2010, 06:21:11 PM
Some mornings I just stand around for several minutes when I should be getting dressed doing nothing because I can't stand the thought of putting my binder on. I hate it less during the winter since it keeps me warm.

I do the same sometimes. I just wish I didn't have to wear it, that I was born with the right chest. I look in the mirror and think if only they were gone. But I can only wish right now. Bioguys and tguys that have had top surgery are so lucky they don't have to deal with this.
Gender expression is NOT gender identity.

Defective Catastrophe.
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Trickster

Dude, I have a small chest. aa or a, and I still bind. It's all connective and glandular tissue, so no way it's staying flat without some help. According to friends and general experience, these embarrassing bewbs are the only thing keeping me from passing if I don't flatten them down. Since there's no fat padding at all, it hurts like hell too. They're like...perky and crap, and a dead giveaway for some reason. Such a pita.
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Cairus

Ditto on it 'not being so bad in winter cause it's warm'- but during the summer months? Oh, man! And you can't wear a wifebeater or guys gtank over it 'cause the binder will show through. OT, hell yes I get so sick of it. I'm like a AA too but need to use a binder to stay flat(otherwise they poke out, and no matter how 'tiny' they'd be for a girl, I'm a skinny dude and can't get away with man cans) and I've come to a point now where I actually pass in public... Consequently, I feel even more pressure to bind, or I'm breaking people's minds just walking around outside. Skinny 'pretty' boy who's hairy with tits: D: <--- that's the look I get from strangers on the occasions I've tried.
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