Hey everyone,
Am currently on vacation. Went to Paris and am now in London. Here with my wife, son and sister. Dysphoria has been real bad with all the pretty girls, the way they dress and all the wonderful shops. Just want to fall in line with them, but that isn't possible the way I am right now. Someday. Sigh.

Anyway, last night sat my sister down and told her. We have grown quite close over the years and it seemed right to tell her face-to-face instead of in a letter or over the phone. It was surprisingly hard to get the words out, but once I did, things went very well. She didn't flinch. I guess as a nurse, these things don't faze her as much. She also knows two MTF ladies, and is quite liberal in general. Really couldn't ask for more acceptance. We hugged and cried and she told me that anything I needed was mine for the asking. She has been my "baby"'sister in the past, but I suspect when it comes to being a girl, she is going to be my big sister. It feels very good to have the support of family and I hope coming out to the rest goes as smoothly.

Oh that is just awesome honey!

go you!

That is wonderful.

Truly wonderful news.  Big hugs to you both.

YAY!

I have been truly blessed so far with my wife and family. I suspect the rest of my family will be similar. I do expect trouble with friends and institutions in my conservative Houston suburb community. This is where my real fear lies for both myself and my wife and son. However, this can be changed with a well timed move to some place more accepting. Family is very important. After reading some of the other truly horrifying responses from parents on this site, I count myself among the really lucky ones so far.

I'm very happy to hear that.  I'm already a fan of your sister's. 

I think you're right with the family. When your family is with you and supports you, you can deal with others in a much better way. You can also deal with hate and whatnot, knowing you'll have support at home. I hope you will find support in your friends, though.

To that "walking through the city seeing pretty girls, wanting to dress up too"... yeah, I know how that feels. Even if it's the oither way around in my case. Today I saw a wonderful looking young man with a great suit and a decent tie and thought "me want too..." - yeah, well.

It sounds like you have a wonderful family.  And yes it might be time to remove yourself from a redneck area and into a more open environment


Congratulations.

yay!! I'm so happy to hear wonderful news!! All the best sweetie!!

Gabby

Quote from: Melody on August 13, 2010, 05:10:01 AM
Hey everyone,
Am currently on vacation. Went to Paris and am now in London. Here with my wife, son and sister. Dysphoria has been real bad with all the pretty girls, the way they dress and all the wonderful shops. Just want to fall in line with them, but that isn't possible the way I am right now. Someday. Sigh.

Anyway, last night sat my sister down and told her. We have grown quite close over the years and it seemed right to tell her face-to-face instead of in a letter or over the phone. It was surprisingly hard to get the words out, but once I did, things went very well. She didn't flinch. I guess as a nurse, these things don't faze her as much. She also knows two MTF ladies, and is quite liberal in general. Really couldn't ask for more acceptance. We hugged and cried and she told me that anything I needed was mine for the asking. She has been my "baby"'sister in the past, but I suspect when it comes to being a girl, she is going to be my big sister. It feels very good to have the support of family and I hope coming out to the rest goes as smoothly.

Heh, my sister was the same way but she cracked a joke... When i said i was TS to her all she said was.

"So now santa gets my letter, i wished for a baby sister 29 years ago~?"

She is cute that way, but i knew she, of all people, and being an educator, would accept me, i just didn't know she would be so elated over it. 

Quote from: Izumi on August 13, 2010, 11:16:59 AM
Heh, my sister was the same way but she cracked a joke... When i said i was TS to her all she said was.

"So now santa gets my letter, i wished for a baby sister 29 years ago~?"

She is cute that way, but i knew she, of all people, and being an educator, would accept me, i just didn't know she would be so elated over it.

Ok, your sisters comment really made me LOL!

Just wanted to share one more thing. Before she left to go back home today, she gave me the following note:

"I'm writing to let you know something I didn't say last night, which I should have. I always express myself better in writing. First off, I'm sorry for anything I may have done in the past which may have hurt your feelings or made you feel that you couldn't come to me with these feelings. I'm sorry for not being there for you, like I should have. I hope to make this up to you. I'm sorry for your years of feeling lost and unhappy. I wish I could take it away from you. The hurt and the solitude you must have felt, makes me sad and brings tears to my eyes. I know what it's like to feel trapped in a cage unable to change your path. I had no idea what you were going thru. And I too was going thru my own issues growing up. So much has happened to me and I always wanted to share it, but couldn't. I hope one day we can both talk freely to each other, like we should. There is so much more to understanding each other than what's on top. I'm here for you always...no matter what. I always have been. I want to see you happy and smiling, living your life the way you choose. My love for you is unconditional. I have and will always look up to you, for your strength and courage. Love always, your sister."

Needless to say, I was in tears reading this. I had to actually read it in two parts to get through it without being overwhelmed with emotion. It hurts me that she feels that she wasn't there for me. She was just plain too young. When I reached puberty, she was 6 and when she finally reached puberty, I was 18 and on my way to college. My two other sisters had to many emotional problems to open up to, which is why I am not nearly as close to them. It is only now that my youngest sister is in her 30s and I am facing 40 that we have forged a close relationship. She is very important to me and will be someone I rely on heavily as I transition. I wish all of you similar love and support from family.

YAY!!! That is Sooo Amazing melody!!!
What a great Sister

Congrats!

I wish I had a sister like that 
(I don't have any, which sucks)

Quote from: Kev on August 14, 2010, 01:58:58 AM
I wish I had a sister like that 
(I don't have any, which sucks)

Yes you do, you have a site full of them.  Hi I'm your sister Cindy James and would love to meet my brother Kev. No reason to be shy.

Melody,
Thank you for such a great post. Refreshing to say the least.

Vindy