It's such a shame when families refuse to accept their children for who they are. You make a gorgeous woman, Jerica. Don't let it get you down too much - as long as you're doing what your heart tells you, you really can't go wrong. Maybe one day they'll come around and realize what they've lost by denying who you are.

*hugs*

I am so sorry to read that. I know that is very painful. I hope it will work itself out for the better.

Jerica...

I remember when I first read this, before I had come out to anyone, and thinking how could a parent take this stance? I felt my heart ache then for you.

Every day I've read this post. Every day I've read the responses on here, even now leaving one myself, there's no way I can ever truly express the sorrow I feel at hearing something like this, I always ask why any parent would take this stance, HOW any parent can...

I am so sorry sweetie, I wish none of us had to face anything like this, especially someone as warm and genuine as you are.

I hope they come around.

If you ever need someone to talk to I'm here, I can't offer much other then a shoulder but it's always available for you!

Gabby

Quote from: Jerica on July 19, 2010, 05:09:56 PM


"No one does this at your age with the intensity, speed and aggressiveness, unless you have had a breakdown "

If your experience was like mine, your mother is right in a way, but doesn't want to face it.

My therapist said yesterday that my feelings of dysphoria seemd to come out after I had a breakdown , a"breakdown to reality".  Other things caused it, but I was unable to hold the whole charade together any longer and had to face the world as the real me.   I am sorry that your mother can't see that she still has the same child, just that you look a bit different, and she is missing the chance to have a relationship that could be far deeper than that which she had with a son.


Sandy.

Quote from: Jerica on July 19, 2010, 06:04:27 PM
Oh yes they pretty much disowned me when I first came out. They wouldn't allow me at their house with nail polish on for my own birthday party. Then they asked for my house key back that they gave me when I was 14. I've not stepped foot in the house since before then and only seen them at weddings....one of which they asked the bride and groom NOT to invite me to.

See now, that seems to me to give the game away.

You can bleat all you want to about loving someone and praying for them...but when you go so far as to meddle in events that are not on your property and not your function then that's not "I cannot support what i believe to be wrong" - that's just hatefulness and spite.

I know, it's your family but i'd say the same about mine (and have)