I've been thinking about it a lot, and I've realized over time that I think I was born female instead of male for a reason, instead of it just being a mistake. Because of being born female, I actually look good as a guy. I look like a pretty guy. And given the history of males on each side of the family, I have a feeling that if I was born male I wouldn't be very attractive. Being attractive may not seem like it is as important as being the right gender, but for me it's just as important. Because I'm obsessed with beauty (this is a trait that is common for people with the same zodiac sign as me), I think I would be even more unhappy if I had been un-attractive. I know this probably won't make any sense for a lot of you, cause a lot of people care more about their gender than their appearance, but I care about both equally I think.

Have any of you ever thought that you were transsexual for a reason? if so, what do you think the reason was?

That's a very interesting way to think about it... I haven't thought about it much, but maybe there is a reason.

And i get appearance being just as important as gender to you, i'm sort of the same way :x

Sure, it taught me to appreciate being a woman all the more! Also I learned quickly what I hated about living in my other mode-like facial hair and a gross voice

I would say, however, as much as I would have liked having a more normal life path, this one has been fulfilling and unique. I am a proud parent, and can say that I have experienced some things in life that most women never would imagine. Having the chance to live half your life in one social gender, and now another, is quite a privilege.

This has not been an easy road, but it has been mine. And for that, I'm grateful.

I was thinking maybe my mind and body developed in different directions...that's why I'm trans!

Most people I know who ask what you're asking are thinking of some "higher purpose" or spiritual reason. That doesn't seem the case here. So I'm actually not sure I understand your question/reason. You seem to be saying that you were born trans so that you could be a good-looking man, because attractiveness is important to you?

I certainly don't think anything like that about myself. I just am what I am. Yam. Whatever. (And I'm definitely not good-looking. I might have been if I'd transitioned earlier, but now? Not so much. As Finnegan says to Captain Kirk, "Look at you! You're an old man!")

I am christian, and I often think god made me a female at birth so I can learn how to understand and appreciate girls, and then be the boy I was meant to be when I'm ready, which is now. It's been a while since I thought about that.

I've thought about this a lot and also spoke to my partner about it. I've come to the conclusion that I was born this way because it is a learning experience and that this is one of my big challenges in life. Everyone has a set of challenges they are born with and they are all different and some are more 'unique' than others. I think that the challenges we faces as transgendered people are a bit more unique but no 'better' or worse than any other sets of challenges.

I also believe in fate and that I think me and my partner were meant to be (but I don't believe in a 'one and only true love' kind of thing). I just believe that you are fated to meet some people and I was fated to meet and be with my partner. Also that part of his challenge in life was to meet a transgendered person and come to better understand people like myself and that we have another set of challenges -together- than if we were apart.

I think it's something like that, the wording might be a little off, it's kind of hard to put into words.

Ha, a better looking dude ... I never thought about it that way.

I'm kinda with @Phate in that I think I was born the way I was as a life experience. I could only imagine what my life would have been like "normal". Actually I think it would have been pretty mundane and boring. And not everyone is lucky enough to be able to see life from two perspectives. So that's what I like to think.

Even though I'm a pretty religious person, I don't mean Christian, I don't usually attribute many things to the workings of a higher power.  Being trans however, I do believe happened for a reason, despite the hardships it brings and I believe it will bring great happiness for me in the future. 
I will admit, I do relish the fact that when I do pass, I find people see me as a pretty boy.  It does strokes one's ego and I kinda take what I can get.

You know, I don't even believe in the Zodiac (Well, I believe in the constelation belt but you know what I mean) and yet I'm the perfect Aquarius.

Seriously, go read it, it's like reading my biography. o.o

Quote from: Heartwood on August 18, 2010, 12:19:35 AM
You know, I don't even believe in the Zodiac (Well, I believe in the constelation belt but you know what I mean) and yet I'm the perfect Aquarius.

Seriously, go read it, it's like reading my biography. o.o

I used to not believe in the zodiac, until I read about libra. It said everything correctly about me. and now I read about people's zodiac after I'm friends with them and it always describes them perfectly or close to it.

I have also thought about this some. Asked things like "WHY? Why was i made this way?" And I think one of the things is like is said here...it was a learning experience and also a way to make me the man that I needed to be. To know what it's like to be a woman and to be able to treat women with the respect that they deserve. I also think that having my sons was a major part of it. If I hadn't been born in a female body, I don't think I would have had such wonderful sons.

Quote from: ZomZom on August 18, 2010, 01:27:39 AM
I used to not believe in the zodiac, until I read about libra. It said everything correctly about me. and now I read about people's zodiac after I'm friends with them and it always describes them perfectly or close to it.

Heh heh, I'm a libra too.  Inherent narcissism is kinda strong amongst our zodiac group 

Quote from: JosephKT on August 18, 2010, 01:46:07 AM
Heh heh, I'm a libra too.  Inherent narcissism is kinda strong amongst our zodiac group 

*Waves* Another Libra here!

Quote from: JosephKT on August 18, 2010, 01:46:07 AM
Heh heh, I'm a libra too.  Inherent narcissism is kinda strong amongst our zodiac group 

I feel stupid for saying this, but I don't know what that is XD what is it?

I always wondered why I'm like this and finally found a satisfying explanation.

In heaven, they have a factory where they build babies. One step of the process at the assembly line is, you have the complete body and put the brain into the baby's head. Well when my body was there, the person at the assembly line sneezed and dropped a male brain into a female body. The assembly line went too fast to change it back.

And the point of being trans is the unique experience you get from it, and the challenge and big chance to find the right place for yourself. Best thing about being trans (or genderqueer) is you might (!) learn to think about social roles and pick out what suits you best instead of stubbornly following what society expects from you. It is a unique gift which can give you a lot of flexibility and make you very open-minded.

For a few years I thought that it was all terrible mistake and a real pain that didn't do me any good. But eventualy I came to the conclusion that I have been born like this for a reason. As Bones said, I've learned to treat women with the respect that they deserve and I understand them better. I can see things from two perspectives and I'm sure that was a gift I was meant to have. (Or maybe thats just because I'm a gemini)

And BTW ZomZom, narcissism means vanity, essentialy. It's a word that comes from the greek legend of the demi-god narcissis, who fell in love with himself when he looked at his reflection. 

My feelings are that every experience in life we should/have to take hold of and run with them. There are positives and negatives about every experience. What do we make of them?

I totally love being female. I am very happy with my gender. Not happy about the unresolved but largely cosmetic changes, in fact very unhappy about them . Once they are fixed I will forever be disappointed that I could not and at my age, never will, have children. But I will not that rule my life.

A few weeks ago I had the realization that I was female. OK known it since birth, walked the walk and talked the talk. But then I became female totally in my brain.

What was the reason? To help others, yes. To live my life? To experience the highs and lows. To be me.

Yes this might be a strange answer; To be me.


Cindy

I agree with CindyJames, sometimes you just gotta run with what you have.

I also think that there was a reason I was born this way. I think going through all these really trying experiences have just solidified me and allowed me to looked inward a lot from a young age. I probably know what I want better than most people my age because of it.

I don't believe there is a reason. I'm not that kind of person.

I simply believe my body and brain went down different routes in the womb. There is no real reason for it.

Quote from: ZomZom on August 18, 2010, 02:00:03 AM
I feel stupid for saying this, but I don't know what that is XD what is it?

Nah, don't feel stupid.  Libra's tend to love all that is beautiful , lovely, harmonious, etc.  By nature we also want to be or are romantic, charming and sociable people.  So we tend to want ourselves pretty or handsome as well, and when we feel we are take quite the inner joy in it.  It's not necessarily a bad thing, unless one becomes way too self-indulgent which can happen, after all, Libras do like to indulge and are easily susceptible to extravagance... *looks over at my pile of hair products*