Hey guys.. Ok soo yeh im finding it very very hard.. Iv never been a a big Relationship.. Im 22 and i get very frustrated... Im not sure how to go about it. I am on a datring site as (LES) and i also (before) as male straight. And i dont get anythink on any of em.. i REALLY dont now how to go about this. I would love to be in a relationship, any advice

I know the Internet dating thing works for a lot of people, but I think you'll have more success if you get out and try to meet people with common interests.  Do something social to meet new people: join a gym, visit a museum, take an art class, etc.  Real life is a much better place to emotionally connect with other people, and that's what big-R-relationships are based on.

Quote from: Ilan Reshon on August 31, 2010, 07:30:40 PM
I know the Internet dating thing works for a lot of people, but I think you'll have more success if you get out and try to meet people with common interests.  Do something social to meet new people: join a gym, visit a museum, take an art class, etc.  Real life is a much better place to emotionally connect with other people, and that's what big-R-relationships are based on.

I second this.

I've tried online dating and it seems I fail.  I also fail at meeting people IRL, I can never seem to get past the "just a friend" stage and it's pretty irritating because I'm 21 and haven't even been on a date in 2 years.

Wish I had some advice to offer, but I'm having trouble with the dating scene too.  I haven't been on a date in five years and that was a blind date my sister set me up with, some guy twice my age who was kinda freaky.  I've had people ask me out since then but most of them were not people who I'd want to  be in a relationship with; some of them were even up front that it was just sex they wanted.  Plus the people who've asked me out see me as a girl and expect me to be the woman in the relationship.  Not happening.

I've tried the dating site thing but as soon as I send my pic, be it to males or females, I never hear back.  I don't think I'm hideous to look at.  I figure it's the being overweight thing.   But considering that half the people who've contacted me are overweight themselves...*shrug*  I dunno.  I'm not good at relationship stuff.  I have enough trouble just making friends IRL. 

Quote from: Ilan Reshon on August 31, 2010, 07:30:40 PM
I know the Internet dating thing works for a lot of people, but I think you'll have more success if you get out and try to meet people with common interests.  Do something social to meet new people: join a gym, visit a museum, take an art class, etc.  Real life is a much better place to emotionally connect with other people, and that's what big-R-relationships are based on.

this probably the best advice on the topic. though i might add, and it may sound cheesy, it tends to happen when you stop searching. might have something to do with your attitude, which makes you more interresting...

The best advice I can give you is to stop specifically searching for a relationship. Just meet new people, socialise a lot, widen your social circle. Then if you happen to meet somebody and hit it off...great. If not you've made a bunch of new friends.

I'd say stop searching as well. I tried searching, it didn't work. I was 22 and had never been on so much as a date, held hands or anything. Make a group of friends.. and you'll find someone.

How did I find mah SO? I had been searching.. got rejected by a good friend and kinda just gave up.. meanwhile I'd been talking to this lovely lady - but hell, I've never admited to myself that I might be interested in females. I met her on the internet just as friends on a little kids play site lolz.. and then all of a sudden I had a cat that I needed to dispose of, she said she'd take it.. so I went and met her as a male.. we hung out a few times, after a month of having known her in person I came out to her as FTM.. she freaked out on me.. but we worked through it. I realized that I was really attracted to her, she realized that she was still really attracted to me.. and walla.. we're dating. So now I've been going through all the firsts.. that most teenagers go through.. lol.

But yeah.. stop searching.. I found searching to be useless personally.

I know how you feel.
I want a relationship now, too, but it's too complicated.
Right now, I live in my hometown, I'm not outed so I feel like I can't date anyone here.
I'm not even trying to date girls here because everyone will think I'm a lesbian, and I don't want to date guys because they would treat me like a girl. 
Just try to meet some new friends, you'll probably find someone.
That's what I'm doing.