I find so many people and I include myself who have or are always sacrificing there own wants and desires for what they think others want of them. I have lost years trying to be what other have wanted me to be or what I thought they wanted me to be.
Do you often give in to other people because you just can't stand the thought of upsetting them?
Do you put your needs to one side because you get a buzz from someone else's happiness, only to find that he or she is not a bit grateful?
If so, you are what is called a  "people pleaser," and you are, in all probability, not getting what you want out of life.

So is it's time to shift the focus from others to yourself, and stop being a such a martyr?

Think of a time when you did or said something that did not truly reflect your wants or needs, in order to please someone else.
For each of these occasions, imagine how you would have handled it differently - to please yourself!
So what would be the worst that could have happened?

Jillieann

I like my solitude so I do not please or want to attract people near me.

I like to do things for people if it means it will help them if I feel I am able to. But still I tend to find myself doing other things for others for their own personal gain. Idk how to explain it really, but I think it's probably safe to say the last time I felt I was in good help to others was when I got to use my gift of sensing spirits and cleansed my best friends and her husbands house of negative spirits   But it would be nice for me to do something for myself for a change.

I'm also kind of a loaner. I'll help those I care about to the extent that it's reasonable & I'm capable. I tend not to care much if someone gets upset. The world keeps spinning just the same. Plus, they get over a lot of the time as soon as they find someone else to do their bidding.

I have a very difficult time saying 'no'  to anyone and I do try to please people, probably in hopes of receiving acceptance.  This seems to be a trait in my family - I think we are all severely codependent.