Michael called me this morning, if I could substitute for him this morning at the school for the last day where people bring in their invitations if they are attending reunion.He seemed so tired from work I said yes.Turned out to be a big mistake.2 people from my class came in , 1 was very happy for me.I started to think this reunion is going to be great tomonrow.Then my old college girlfriend came in,I couldnt wait to tell her.I poured my heart out to her, telling her how I came to this decision.She was speechless,I said what do you think.She said ,You should be ashamed of yourself and I never want to see you again. This was the first person that I needed to absolutely have approval,I could care less if anybody else rejects me.Im still going to go tomorrow, but my enthusiasm is gone.I was hoping that we would be good friends and even see each other ever week, and get caught up.Tol Michael about this, he told me to just erase her from my mind.Its just not that easy.

I have enjoyed reading this thread, it's like a chick-lit serial, except for your old girlfriend's attitude. 
You have Michael and she doesn't though, so  to her! If that is the way she turned out, who needs her for a friend.

Have a great time, and enjoy being with the people who appreciate you.

Go kid, Sandra.

Quote from: Angela Venetos on September 03, 2010, 06:31:31 AM
Michael called me this morning, if I could substitute for him this morning at the school for the last day where people bring in their invitations if they are attending reunion.He seemed so tired from work I said yes.Turned out to be a big mistake.2 people from my class came in , 1 was very happy for me.I started to think this reunion is going to be great tomonrow.Then my old college girlfriend came in,I couldnt wait to tell her.I poured my heart out to her, telling her how I came to this decision.She was speechless,I said what do you think.She said ,You should be ashamed of yourself and I never want to see you again. This was the first person that I needed to absolutely have approval,I could care less if anybody else rejects me.Im still going to go tomorrow, but my enthusiasm is gone.I was hoping that we would be good friends and even see each other ever week, and get caught up.Tol Michael about this, he told me to just erase her from my mind.Its just not that easy.

Angela..

One thing we can never control is people.

This would have happened anyway. Like a sort of time bomb, waiting to go off.

OK, so you wanted her approval. She has been silly and negative. Her loss.

Tomorrow, there will probably be some others. Their loss.

What you are actually seeing is the reality of these people. Imagine, for a moment, you hadn't changed. This girl was still part of your life. One day, she makes a negative comment to a transgendered person. Is that really the sort of person you would want to associate with?

You are living your life, your way. Just hold your head up high. All that you can lose are your previous illusions about some of the people you knew.

I was afraid something like that might happen with the old girlfriend. Just remember that this is about her, not you. Your confession cast your old relationship in a new light and challenged her own sexuality. Your a woman now and she was your girlfriend and she was probably afraid of what people would now say at the reunion about her. This is a lot to digest in a few minutes.

My wife and I have been married for 15 years and after I confessed my trans nature, it turned her world upside down. If she stays is she now a lesbian? Big questions like that. It has taken weeks for her to work through a reexamination of herself and she is not nearly done grieving what we had.

Anyway, I guess what I am saying is to cut her a little slack. Yes, what she said was terrible, but I know my wife loves me and she has said some pretty unflattering stuff too. Give her some space and she might come around, but don't place too much importance on this. She is part of your old life and you are building a new one with Michael.

Dear Angela, Michael is a swell and very intuitive person, sounds to me he has eased you in by having you attend signups before hand. Your attitude will be shaped by what you had to endure but it is for good. Wow, he really is a carrying and wise friend. Be your self, you already gonna have a best friend there to cheer you on. I am overwhelmed by your strength and courage to plunge into this pool of unforeseen emotion, I remember high school, the most harsh and criticizing crowd there is on the other hand the best friendships have formed there as well. Smile, it is one of the worlds most potent influences, share your wonderful soul with others, love, Alexia.

Thanks Alexia and Spacial for the kind words.But I dont think you quite understand the situation.This girl and me, had been a couple throughout college and high school.We shared some very intimate moments together.If not for her having to move away for her Masters degree , we might have even been married today.Few months after she moved away, I "discovered" myself.Melody,I really dont know if I can forgive her, even if she does come around.Im hoping she doesnt cause me any trouble tomorrow,  because I would leave immediately.

You said it yourself Angela. A few months later, you discovered yourself.

It isn't a virus, it was always there. You just discovered it.

Sorry, but life is full of disappointments. This girl wasn't the one for you. She know it and as melody says, perhaps you need to cut her some slack.

You're a beautiful woman. You always have been.

Now, tomorrow, you're going to that reunion. I'm pretty sure a lot of people will be expecting to meet you. You're going to have a great time and just enjoy yourself.

(I was about to write, In a little over 24 hours..... Then I remembered you're on a different time zone. Oops).

Thanks Spacial, Your username should really be Miss Confidence Booster.In a way, you are kind of right about the time zone.It is almost 5.30 P.M here in Greece.The reunion is tommorrow night at 9 P.M.

Everyone is such understanding people at this forum.You truly are great friends.The way I feel about you girls, is best explained by the infamous lyrics from the golden girls tv show ! Her are the lyrics..............    "Thank you for being a friend." "Travelled round the world and back again."  "Your heart is true, your a pal and a confidant."  "And if you threw a party, invited everyone you knew, you would see the greatest gift would be from me, and the card attached would say thank you for being a friend".

Quote from: Angela Venetos on September 03, 2010, 09:20:35 AM
Thanks Spacial, Your username should really be Miss Confidence Booster.In a way, you are kind of right about the time zone.It is almost 5.30 P.M here in Greece.The reunion is tommorrow night at 9 P.M.

OMG! You're in Greece!  I was thinking middle America.   No wonder the ex-girlfriend got upset...in Greece men are men and the women are grateful and now you've gone and spoilt that ideal for her...and she's wondering if that means she is destined to exile on Lesbos.
Enjoy Michael and whatever else life gives you but like lots of us you'll find that many old friends just have to be let go.

Έχετε μια καλή στιγμή, είσαι ο εαυτός σου, και να μας ενημερώσετε για όλες τις λεπτομέρειες αργότερα. Μετά από όλα, είμαστε όλα τα κορίτσια!

Dear Angela, I feel for you but these things do happen and there will without doubt be more similar encounters in the future. As much as people would like to smite her for the way she behaved it might be understandable. Please don't get me wrong, I do not approve of her reaction but you have to realize that it can be quite a shock to realize the person she loved for so long is actually a woman. Many different factors can play part in her reaction. It is possible she cannot understand your transition, she can feel mislead by you or maybe it is even harsh intolerance. Maybe she is shocked that she realizes that she did not know this part of you. This does not mean she is right, but a person can feel this way.

I am sorry if I sound offensive to you, but this is how people are. As much as we want we can't change that and we have to learn to live with it. Right now you you have found a special person who cares about you and you should cherish that

Thanks Alexia ! Did you do that from 1 of those translation sites ? Because it came out about 90 percent correct translation.But its your thought that counts !

Aww Angela I'm so sorry that happened to you! It's really her loss, she sounds like a lame person and she doesn't deserve to be your friend. I know how you feel a little bit. =/ And omg quoting the Golden Girls, I love you even more <3

Dear Octavianus, while you may be right about her, but only time will tell.

Quote from: KimberlyJean on September 03, 2010, 12:15:45 PM
Aww Angela I'm so sorry that happened to you! It's really her loss, she sounds like a lame person and she doesn't deserve to be your friend. I know how you feel a little bit. =/ And omg quoting the Golden Girls, I love you even more <3

Kimberly thanks. Im kind of suprised someone as young as you knows the golden girls show !!! Do you watch it in reruns

Quote from: Angela Venetos on September 03, 2010, 12:18:21 PM
Kimberly thanks. Im kind of suprised someone as young as you knows the golden girls show !!! Do you watch it in reruns

Yeah my sisters and I grew up watching it and we're huge fans of it still. My friend Tina is actually a super fan. Like she's OBSESSED with it, seen every episode and quotes them all the time haha. I love it though. The cast is amazing. RIP Bea, Rue & Estelle

The way she reacted is awful and it is up to her to sort this out in her mind.
It is hard but for now please don't think too much about it. It will be wasted energy and you have a very busy day tomorrow. I look forward to read all bout it.
So please don't be sad, chin up, chest forward and have a grand evening.

There is only one tiny phrase in Greek I have memorized:
Γνῶθι Σεαυτόν

It was engraved in the temple of Apollo at Delhi and although it is very old, I think it is still a very important message.
Know yourself, be yourself and have fun tomorrow!

Quote from: KimberlyJean on September 03, 2010, 12:20:50 PM
Yeah my sisters and I grew up watching it and we're huge fans of it still. My friend Tina is actually a super fan. Like she's OBSESSED with it, seen every episode and quotes them all the time haha. I love it though. The cast is amazing. RIP Bea, Rue & Estelle

Yes, hard to believe only Betty is the last one alive. This is likely my last post till sometime Sunday.Ill let everyone know how it went.I told Michael it would be better, if we didnt come together as a couple to the reunion.But he said he will take care of it. Ill see you girls on Sunday.

Good luck Angela!! <3 I'll be thinking about you <3