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Welcome & Hello, Kelly!

When I finally figured out many years ago that I had a "female soul" in a man's body I decided that learning to live that way was my task in this life and that was that.  As it turns out this decision had a very large impact on my life, not much of it positive.  So now, more than 30 years later I find myself at the point where I cannot continue with the dichotomy as it stood so I started therapy with a gender specializing psychologist and began HRT to remove the continuing influence of testosterone as well as begin to feminize my body.

The point I want to make is that when you decide that you HAVE to make changes, you will.  Susan's is a great site in that it contains alot of information and its members are very kind and supportive so you'll find alot of help here, if you want it, in deciding what you want to do.

In the meantime I hope you become a regular contributor here so I'll be looking forward to reading more from you.

again, WELCOME ! ! 
helen

 Hi Kelly,
Glady you joined Susan's.
I'm sure you will find lots of information that will help answer some of your questions.  Don't rush to an conclusions but do your research and ask question on the fourm and we will do or best to help.

QuoteSo I guess accepting and finding out where I'm at is my best bet,

That the right spirit girl. I wouldn't worry about any so called other
life Kelly; just dealing with the present life is enough trouble in it's self.
See you around.

Jillieann/JR

Welcome to Susan's, Kelly!

Thank you for your introduction.  I'm sure you'll make many friends here in no time.  Please feel free to explore the entire site, get familiar with the site rules. and visit our wiki which is the version of a goldmine of information.

Take care and we'll see each other online.

tinkerbell

Quote from: Kelly on November 30, 2006, 02:56:54 PM
Hi, 

    Umm....I'm not really sure what to say.  I've been reading the forums for a while and it seems like a nice place so I decided to sign up and hopefully get more insights about things.  I'm 22, almost done with college.  I've kind of been unsure about my gender identity since I was a little kid.  The feelings seem to be really strong at times, other times I wonder if its just in my head, but the feelings have never gone away. 
     
     My mom says it's probably just because I'm a pisces romantic/sensitive type, never had a girlfriend, have some karma to work out and that I should just stay the way I am now because there's a lot more time in eternity/other lives to be myself.  She also says it could give me some kind of advantage as a male.  Sometimes I wonder if she might be right.  It's not really about the clothes for me, more about the way my body looks and how my mind works.  Last year I had a nervous breakdown and started seeing a therapist, although we just started dealing with the gender stuff about a month ago.  One of my main obstacles is that I'm really tall (6'5") and have size 14 mens feet.   On the plus side though, I've never really built up any muscle mass (on purpose) and apart from my shoulders I have a small frame (for being 6'5").
     
      I've been really busy this semester, so hopefully once finals are done in a couple weeks I'll have a chance to really think about everything and then see where that takes me.

                    Peace and love to everybody,
                                                             Kelly

Hello Kelly.

Let me add my welcome to the others.  I'm sure that you will find Susan's to be a great place to hang out, make new friends and acquaintances and possibly get answers to questions you may have.  Don't be afraid to post here as there is no such thing as a stupid question.  There is a lot of experienced members here who are only to willing to share their thoughts and experiences.

It seems that your mom is a wonderful person and that you have a great relationship with your mom, which is huge starting out.  Moms are so intuitive and they will surprise the heck out of you.  And about your size, I would see that as an obstacles but more of a challenge.  Granted tall folks, men and women do have more of a problem when it comes to finding sources for clothing and shoes, often they must go the online route, but not always.

Anyway, suffice it to say that you are most welcome here and I look forward to your participation as that's what Susan's is all about.

Steph

Quote from: Kelly on December 04, 2006, 04:37:07 PM
Hi Steph,

QuoteIt seems that your mom is a wonderful person

Yeah, she is really nice but she's having a tough time.  I guess I can't really blame her.  It's seems like she wants to be ok with it but she's still really shook up by it, and she doesn't really want to talk about it.  She told me it's like grieving the loss of someone.  On the plus side, I haven't been disowned (not yet at least) and she has said that she'd support my decision (as long as i finished college and moved away before doing anything drastic, which is what i plan to do anyways).

                Peace and love,
                                     Kelly

Of course this all depends on you and how fast you plan on doing things.  Personally, and not everyone will agree with me, I would take your moms advice.  What do you have to loose?  Finish college, and at the same time start making your plans, research, look at what you need to do, what you can start, what will have to wait, doctors therapists, there is a lot of things that you have consider.  You are 22 and still have plenty of time to decide things and it will give your mom time to adjust, and come to know you all over again.

It's particularly hard for parents.  As you can imagine when you were born they had plans for you, they had hopes and dreams for you, they had expectations that you would do this, become that.  They probably boasted to friends, neighbors, family on what a great son you were, you get the picture.  Now in their eyes it's all gone, the person she gave birth to and raised has gone , has been stolen from her, some parents even draw an analogy that the person they new is gone forever.

Yep it's tough on most moms and dads, but your mom seems as though she is willing to at least meet you half way on this, so be careful not to overwhelm her with your enthusiasm and with information you think she needs to know.  Trust me when she is ready she will ask you the questions, as long as you give her the opportunity.  Above all be honest with her when she does, and if you are not sure about something or you don't know the answer, then tell her that you "don't know", don't make up a story that you think will make her happy.

Steph