I know that is natural to have ups and downs on anything, sexual activity, dressing up, doing some sport, or even talk to somebody, but the toughest down i ever faced is the one that demotivates me to dress up, it is happens in two ways.
One, when i am very distracted with my life and im doing something different and actually enjoying it, such a sport, or traveling or something similar. (this is a nice down on dressing up)

And the second type, which is bothering me so much i hope to get some solutions to minimize it, let me explain...
I t come after i had a very good and enjoyable moment with my self and had being dressing up and trying all my dresses and shoes and my mojo is at the top, even i cant measure it really i always want more, and when im so excited i always , but always got aroused even if i cool my self down and is inevitable i most of the time have to go to the restroom to come, without me to excite me manually, sorry for the details, but is very important for me to know how to control my appetite for dressing up without getting into the moment that show is over.

when i just got all out of me, i change my motivation is zero, the first thing i want to do is to take of what im wearing and if im wearing make up i see my self at the mirror and feel that i have to take it off, i cant stand it, i know deep inside me that i was really enjoying and i was very very excited, and most of the time i went out product of this desire of more feeling feminine,
I never had any accident when out and about wearing heels, it could be disastrous i know i will feel shame or very bad with my self, is like the man that is inside me is not giving up, (which is good, i like to live as such) but when in my mind i want to enjoy more time or maybe sometimes i have the hope that after a couple of hours i will get passed that and dress up again, it happens with less intensity, it make me feel that i should do something to last.
Is funny because when i make love to my wife, i always fantasize doing it wearing my heels as she doesn't know my hobbie, and i can do it over and over, i feel really excited and easily after making love even three times in a row, doesnt matter how exhausted i could be i feel i want to dress up and wear heels still.
I sometimes think that when someone get rid of the semen it contain some compounds that gives us signs to our brain in order to desire something, so why then it only happens when i dress up and then get rid of it and then i dont want it anymore?

sometimes i wonder to drink and get drunk then dress up, which i did before but always this plan doesnt work well, because drunk is not really enjoying and i cant see well while drunk so i cannot see myself and see the details, then i can loose control of my actions, one day i went out on a pink suit very short skirt, extremely short, and very sexy fishnet, i forgot to put make up, i was going with the highest heels and almost could walk, i went to my car so drunk and there i didnt know what to do as i was drunk, i took the car around the complex, and said to my self if i get into and accident dress like this well what a problem, so i decided to park my car again and go back to my apartment, surprise there were the neighbors on the hallway, i stayed in my car for almost an hour waiting to clear up, then i left, i didnt enjoyed that at all.

is there any vitamins or supplement to increase the tolerance or give back once i got an orgasm i can keep my level of desire at least to keep my clothes on? please dont tell me to take hormones, as a matter of fact i took once male hormones when i was going to the gym and i felt more desire as well, maybe i answered my question, well please come up with good ideas.
cheers
by the way i just posted my avatar pic what do you think?

No. There isn't. Alcohol is something which so many seem to use. Yet surprisingly, when you stop, completely, the effect is quite amazing.

As for the other issue, that's the way the male body works.

Have you tried not reaching for climax?

Hi Spacial, Thanks for your response.

I tried to cool down in many ways but the feeling and the sensitivity of all the stuff that i am wearing at that moment is so strong that is impossible to control, the feeling of the hose, the heels, the dress, the wig, the cosrset, the bra, the panties, the makeup, the eyelashes, the mascara, the lipstick and then even looking at myself thru the mirror, is all a package that ignites all my senses and make me to go on that level, the only way to control is not to wear all of it at once, therefore no fun.
contradictory it is, i want to wear all the stuff at a time and be completed at the very detail and have such excitment but without ruining the party, hope there is a solution even if a clean up the pipes without wanting i need to keep the feeling and the excitement longer...is the Viagra helps? or any other hormone supplement?

My fear is this....when i will have the guts and the opportunity to go out fully enfemme i don't want to have the problem in the middle of the sidewalk or the party or wherever i will be and not be able to reach my car or my house immediately, some times after the climax if i am still wearing my hose and my panties and my heels it starts to hurt me a lot and i cant even make a step, my knees bend and my feet get hurt, sometimes if im wearing a bra and a corset which is most of the time when i cd, i cant breathe, it is really a problem in my case.

I though the crazy idea of wearing a condom with that substance in the lubricant that makes the male to last longer and which makes the male member to back off, maybe thats a solution, but it sounds so weird going around wearing a condom, makes me laugh....

After reading the post , I reminded myself of a little of my own past many eons ago. I too had sex with a nother mans wife and we did it with hose ! Oh I wanted to go wayyyyyyyyy further but I'm not sure how some of the moderators here at Susans might allow it , so suffice to say , it was funn while it lasted . She soon tired of me and found someone more to her likeing . It also got me to thinking deeper as to just who I was within this strange new world of clothing , crossdressing and fetishness.

Years later , I realized I was beyond dressing and I was a candidate for H R T . I wasn't allowed to fulfill that as an underlying medical problem associated from alcoholism was the reason I had to abandon the hormones . Still, I live today as a full time female and I still have male duties . I dress Androgeniouesly in tops and jeans although female . Let me know if you or anyone else can benifit from my experences as I return all P-M 's as soon as I'm notified . ellen

When I first started closet CDing, I was strongly attracted and aroused by my own image. Even after public crossdressing, that kind of mojo feeling persisted.

Nowadays, most of clothes I wear everyday are just ladys' casuals. They are just comfortable, but I still can express my feminity. Even most people do not recognize they are actually ladys' (sometimes little girls').

There are some special items that still can arouse me: 5-inch heels and fishnet, which I have never worn outdoors.

And, sometimes I can be attracted to my own image even without wearing any cloth or makeup. I guess most of women are the same as me with respect to narcissism.

One thing certain is that I always dislike wearing men's clothes. This is nothing to do with sexual motivation. But sometimes I have to wear men's clothes, especially when delivering lectures to students. I do not like it, but I know well that other people also should do something that they do no like. That is our life.

Barbie~~

morpho

It sounds as if you are simply enjoying the feelings. That seems to me to be great. The loss of interest afterwards might simply be your own feelings toward your own desires.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wearing anything you wish to.

Can you perhaps try making a schedule. Put on your clothes and tell yourself, that you are going to keep them on until such a time, say 5 hours.

Then, if you want to reach climax, do so. But you must stick to your schedule regardless.

Please don't use viagra. It can cause a long term errection, I think it's called parapasm. I know men who've had this. All have said that it is really uncomfortable. They have this errection but no mental desire or energy to use it.

I found that with caffeine i enjoy much more the moment, anyway i will take all the suggestions posted, maybe all control is in my mind.
thanks again for suggesting and let me know similar experiences dont worry if they are too embarrassing, you can pm to me if you wish thanks

Hi Morpho,
There is nothing wrong with what you are doing.  Many CD/TV people get an enormous sexual rush from dressing and/or identifying as female. Some people are aroused by wearing 'female' undergarments/ lingerie under male clothing during a working day

Many men seem to be very visual creatures and 'get off' on looking at women in sexy clothes etc. Probably why woman have learned to wear sexy clothes at certain times. Hi honey I've just bought this garter belt an G-string can you check if it fits? Sort of activity women do when they are feeling a bit neglected.

From their some men get a kick out of wearing female clothing, and get very aroused. From what I have heard that these people like to have an orgasm and then feel somewhat deflated (sorry and wish to change  into male clothing.

Again nothing wrong with this. A perfectly normal sexual desire.

Woman  tend to like wearing female clothing for the look, after all we identify as female. I love the fashions the changes in look, the beautiful fabrics, the look. But I don't get any sexual arousal. OK I can look at myself and think, god I look hot, but it doesn't lead to any desire for self stimulation. And of course it's every day. OK I may not look miss universe every day, but I hope I look good, because I want to look good. I really don't care most of the time what guys feel about how I look. I do hope I look good to other women, and that is a totally none sexual thing. It's a female thing.

So. Where from here. If you want to prolong your 'interests' and are truly CD?TV why not try a bit of restriction? I have not researched this but there are, I believe chastity devices that will prevent erections. There are piercings that will prevent them as well. So I hear The ones I have seen look painfull, but pain to one is pleasure to another .

So I suppose where I am coming from is to enjoy yourself. Don't get caught up in categories.
And find subtle ways of controlling your self Enjoy life. And keep posting

Hugs

Cindy

Cindy , thank you for bringing up the part where  "Real " women wear a lot of things just cause they "Like the look ". It's true  to an extent . I have known women who dress for the ocassion , for their mood that day, to exlemplify how they feel towards someone and then I've seen some women do it to tease men !

For me , I dress to impress "other " women , yes seriously, I do ! I get way too many complements from women as to my style of dress which for the most part is conservative but tasteful. I learned that tip from a couple of News reporters at a local television station here . I tend to buy clothes that are considered "Classic " in style as my budget only allows me so much. I use these pieces to shall we say mix and match as occasions arise . i deal with meuseuem  curators , art directors and I speak to medical personel as me being a transwoman . Any of yopu C D 's who have questions are welcome to P- M me with any clothing concerns you may have . I'm here to help everyone !  ellen

Thanks Cindy,

What i want is to last the longer and not to come fast when im dressing in woman clothes, I don't do any stimulation i got stimulated just by the feeling of all the garments and hose on me.

I really enjoy the erection, i dont care if it shows on my skirt, but definitely if no erection no nirvana no orgasm.
The problem of the males is that the orgasm last few seconds,and there is no long climax, after wards is just a lack of interest on anything but sleep. that is my problem.
However on the women the climax last so long and is different.

I still think there are some supplements or something dealing with the chemistry of the body,