okay, not trying to steal the topic

just thought I'd show you how I do it, because we have similar measurements. Here's a pic how I looked a few years before hrt, well except the two bulges up there

Apart from those, I still go out like this and I'm in male mode at the moment but as I don't like to wear very feminine clothing, I don't think this style is going to change much in the future.
(EDIT: picture deleted because the person I wanted to show it has seen it

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So the point is I really like this shirt because of how it accentuates the shape. I got it in the men's department

but it's a small size. I like it because the patterns are curving to the inside and thereby create an illusion of a waist. I also like how it ends a bit wider than the pants themselves hence making the hips also seem wider. In the women's department one can find more daring patterns if one looks carefully (these are esentially straight vertical lines but womens' tend to curve in a bit), although wearing blouses may not be your style. But it's true that some of them have been specifically made for women conscious about their waist

fyi, my waist is 33" and being lean as hell, it won't get much smaller because my large ribcage won't let that happen. Hips are at 39" so the WHR is far from being distinctly feminine. But nevertheless I think this looks okay. Nothing more, just okay. Remember, it's all about creating an illusion and women are the masters of this discipline

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(sorry for the messed up pic, had to edit out some details)