I am so angry right now. I am getting sick and tired of all the hateful people in the world who refuse to even try to understand my being a transsexual or those who only look at what I am as a joke. I had broke up with this girl a month ago because she kept going back and forth with dating me and then wanting to break up. Every time she wanted to break up it was a different excuse as to why. The first excuse was that she had trust issues with me because I didn't tell her the first time we were together almost a year ago (which ended because after her doing the same thing she did this time, she wanted a break to decide what she really wanted in life) that I was transsexual. The second excuse was because she didn't know if she could handle me being a transsexual even after we had discussed it the first time she wanted to break up with me and her saying she was fine with it. The third excuse was because she was afraid that after I became a woman, I would be so good looking as a woman that I would not want her anymore and would leave her for someone more thinner and good looking. I had to explain to her that I do not judge anyone by the way they look on the outside, but rather I look for what is in a person's heart. We then continued going out until last month when I told her my uncle was in the hospital. She immediately said she thought it was time for a break, and when I asked her what she meant by that she said from us being together, so (once again) she wanted to break up. I told her that I would not take her back, and she continued to beg, plead, and harass me with texts and voicemails about how she could not live without me and that we should work things out. When I got tired of it, I finally contacted her back and told her I would contact her in two days with my decision of whether or not I would take her back. After those two days, I emailed her letting her know how I felt and that the only way I would take her back was if she promised to  make up her mind if she truly could be with me or not being a transsexual and stop coming up with the on again/ off again relationship games that she had been playing. Then through the email, she kept cutting me down and cursing me out until I refused to respond to those kind of emails. She would email me with how sorry she was for saying all the hateful things only to begin doing it all over again when I responded to her apologies with trying to work it out once more with her. I finally gave up and completely ignored her. I even ignored her trying to use another friend of mine and one of hers to get me to talk to her again by her telling them how sorry she was and how she wanted to kill herself because she could not live without me. Then just last week, she replied in a very mean way to a status I had on my Yahoo profile. I began responding calmly to her by letting her know it was her own fault we were not together anymore and explaining why. She called me a liar, said how she hoped the state would take my kids away from me and that I would rot in hell, admitted she never loved me, claimed that she could never love someone who was not comfortable living in the skin that "GOD" gave them, and then said that I was an "IT" because I was neither a man nor would ever be a true female.
  I am also still trying to bite down on my tongue with my birth father's taking me being a transsexual as a joke, making fun of me whenever I get the chance to dress as a female, and laughing about it with other people he talks to on the phone. It's these kind of people that really get me so angry and feeling like wanting to explode on them.
  Why do people dehumanize transsexuals? Why do they look at us as a joke? How can I react in a positive way to these people? Sorry for the long story, but everything had to be said for the point to be made.   
 

Wow, your ex sounds like she has some psychological issues herself.. as in sociopathic. At the least she is very immature and being with her just sounds unhealthy from the way you describe it.

As for your dad, that's a pretty silly way to handle it. I'd imagine he is probably trying to humiliate you into being "normal".

As for the others, the why? Because they probably think it makes them cool to separate themselves as much as possible from transsexuals. What can you do? Separate yourself as much as possible from them, and be a good enough person at heart to those in the world who don't care about such things, which makes the bigots look like the idiots

Your ex sounds like the last girl I was "dating" on-line.  She was a pathologic lier.  She told me things that were outrageous.  But I let them just pass because it was after all the internet.  She tied to get me to be submissive and I am an independent woman.  So we broke up and I will not even recognize her attempts to get back together.

People make fun of people who are different.  They laugh at the person in the wheelchair, or on crutches.  I just blow them off.  After all they don't pay my rent.

As Alainaluvsu says, this girl has some serious issues.

It seems likely that she would have behaved in this way with you whatever the reason, ie, if you were not in the process of changing.

She clearly has an attraction to you, yet is incapable of making committment. She wants, whatever it is she gets from you while lacking the personal maturity to give anything back.

She is definatley one to avoid.

As for her poison tongue, ignore it. There really isn' much else you can do.

If she does try to pester you in person the police may be necessary. I'm pretty sure they will support you. These situations are not as uncommon as you might think and they are trained to deal with them.

As for your father, many of us know that. Not that that makes it any easier. We're suppose to be able to rely upon family, yet for many people, family are the worst of our problems.

But again, if it hadn't been for this issue, I tend to believe  that he would have done this for some other reason.

Sorry I can't be more positive. Like many people, you are just going to have to walk away.

 Thank you all for your comments. I just wish people would be more understanding or at least open-minded enough to try to learn how to understand. A thought came to me about how most people are afraid of what they do not understand. Instead of getting over this fear by at least trying to learn more about it to understand it better, they would rather wipe it out completely so that they can live happier without fear. It's like wolves, for instance,  most people fear wolves so they give wolves a bad name and try to kill them off. From the information I have gathered on wolves, I no longer fear them as I once did because wolves are much like me. They only attack if they, their family, or one of their pack members are attacked. In all honesty, they won't even attack people when they are hungry because they are more afraid of us than we are of them and eat only other animals. It was the farmers mostly that gave wolves a bad name because wolves would go in and eat their livestock. Anyway, most people have a natural reflex of destroying what they do not understand instead of trying to accept and understand it.

Your posting sounds to me like she just used your transsexuality randomly as an excuse. Or she really honestly thinks it's an issue, but would have found anything else about you as an excuse or explanation for her behavior. Like, if you were diabetic, or had kids or no kids, came from a different class or cultural background than her, other religion etc.

Now about your father's reaction, that's nasty. I hope he will stop doing it over time.