Well -- I havent posted much in the past week due to internet problems -- but Ohhhh~ how I wouldv'e liked to.

Apparently, EVEN WITH A BINDER -- no matter HOW manly I AM --, Guys STILL find me "attractive"? LOLWUTTHEFOXNUGGETS....
It started in 5th period Adv.Algera, and this guy who I can't remeber the name of, comes out of NO WHERE, and begins idle conversation. I didn't mind the slight hints of attracion until, like a 6th grader, he started TOUCHING me. Not like, sexually, but annoyingly. A tap or poke here, poking with his papers, stuff like that. I TRIED REALLY HARD, to drop the hints of "Not-so-interested" ... But it didn't work. AT ALL. By the end of class he was telling me he didn't want me to take the carreer path I had chosen because he "didn't want anything bad to happen to me".

Finally today he asked what my FTM phone charm stood form, and like the impatient ass I can sometimes be, I flat out told him that I wasn't JUST gay, like most people think, but that I was a boy. He ofcourse went on about the physical aspects, and I again, bluntly put it, that I don't like guys at all, and was by my own standards a male.


Bet he won't be hitting on me again >w>  ...

2: I'm in a VERY committed relation ship, right.... well... I now, kind of slightly, sort of kind of -- Have this crush on a girl I go to school with.... >___>   .... has this ever happened before to anyone?  I mean, I'm not bored or anything in said relationship, I love my girlfriend more than I do TF2 and L4D2 -- more than anything I could ever hold close --- BUT .... this other girl... she's so... SHE'S FREAKING ADORABLE!! Like, extremely cute and lovable, and she somehow makes me JUST a little bit nervous .... So far only my girlfriend is capable of that... and dude... seriously... I'm crushing alittle and don't really know what to do.... Like... LOLWUTTHEFOXCUTTER  would you guys do? .... Could be that I just REALLY want someone close, cause my girlfriend lives so far away...? Or am I loosing my affection *doubt that* ...? 

Advice? DD:   Comments? Helpp~?


Thank you! :DDD

<3 Alun

1- Sounds like you're in high school!  I was harassed by girls all through high school not because they picked on me for being different but because they wanted to date me and I wasn't interested.  (FWIW, my attractions go the same way as my gender, neutral leaning towards masculine, and in high school I'd never met a girl who wasn't super-feminine and thus not terribly appealing.)  That guy sounds annoying, but not especially dangerous.  Unless he starts getting creepy, just ignore him, and he'll lose interest.

2- I've been in the same boat before.  For me, the solution is good communication.  My partner and I have been "long-distance" for pretty much the entire 6 years we've been together, and though he never seems to find himself attracted to someone else, I do from time to time.  Just because you can feel a crush coming on doesn't mean you have to act on it or that your relationship is failing; as you said, most people feel the need to be close to someone, and that's the tough part about long-distance relationships.  I've found it helpful to just tell my partner, "hey, there's this person I'm starting to be attracted to, let me tell you all about them" and then I feel better about it; by talking it over, we are close to each other, and that's stronger than any superficial crush has been for me.  I mean, some relationships just won't work long distance, but a lot can if all parties are committed to it.

1- Yeaahh XDDD I will either ignore him or be utterly blunt and tell him off... depending on my mood XDD

2- Wow... that actually makes A LOT of sense.... I could try to talk to her about it, usually I consult the best friend first, he's FTM like me and knows a ton about things I didn't even know exsisted in relationships. Plus -- Next time I see said crush, I'll try and point out things I like... maybe create some sort of reason as to WHY I have a crush in the first place.... My mind is just as much logical as it is illogical.... I'll definitely try talking to her *My girlfriend* after I consult Cole. XDDD

THANK YOU SO MUCH!

<3 Alun

I remember back in high school I had a guy friend who was talking to me while we were walking down the hall and brought up something about some guy I had NEVER heard of finding me attractive  . I don't know why, but like a reflex I blurted out, "What is he gay?"  . I'm not out to ANYONE so I wonder how my friend interpreted that  . But now looking back on it, it could've possibly been HIM telling me he was interested and checking to see if I was into guys. My friends always asked if I was a lesbian and I always said no....which is true, but I still like girls  . After that, he's dropped it ever since. I had been told by another friend in our group that that specific guy liked me, but I always just thought he was lying to make fun (he was THAT kind of friend). Meh  I've always been really oblivious to signals until maybe 2-3 years later.