Quote from: kyril on September 21, 2010, 09:54:44 AM
You absolutely did dismiss people's concerns:If "bull->-bleeped-<-" and "fakey" aren't dismissive, I don't know what is.
I fundamentally agree that we do need to suck it up and see doctors when necessary. But your approach is unhelpful and counterproductive. There are helpful and productive ways to give the same advice - ways that acknowledge people's concerns as valid and give concrete suggestions for how to deal with or minimize them. I'm sure you're bright enough to come up with some. if, that is, you actually care about people's health and not just about making yourself feel liek a bigger man by belittling people.
I'm not really sure why there was the need for that but I'm more than willing to explain myself.
Very few of us would actually enjoy getting our genitals, ovaries, prostates, wombs checked out, whether we are mtf or ftm.
I have no doubt that some people suffer horribly having to allow themselves to be examined, just as some people have a crippling fear of needles and some pass out at the sight of blood.
I did not say that everyone who has that level of fear is jumping on the meme wagon. That is
your interpretation.
You've been around long enough to see how some of the younger kids are on message boards (please note
some not all). A lot of the trouble lies with the way the system works, with us having to convince the medical community that we really are trans. I've chatted to some youngsters who admit they over exaggerate their natural reluctance to be examined because they think it makes them sound more convincing to doctors.
I really am sorry Kyril that you have chosen to see my comment as some sort of personal dig at you, it wasn't. It wasn't meant as a dig against anyone, just trying to get over to some people that their lives and health are worth a damn sight more than proving any point that they are trans.
One thing I have seen over the last week is that I don't fit in here at Susan's. This isn't a swan off into the night post but I know that I'm not prepared to be accused constantly because I'm not a member of the nurturing group.