It seems hard to have clear cut for getting normal friendship and serious relationship at the beginning. I got to know a guy in Okcupid, we had good conversation and he want to date me. but I haven't told him my T status yet, should I tell him after our first date if I feel we have potential or before the meeting? I think I should be passable for the date.   I just met a lesibian and her girl friends who are are all around 20-30s last Sunday afternoon as Amanda, they had no clue I am a trans until I told her yesterday.  I just still has the feeling of guilt for lying and potentia hurt other persons feeling. Normally how you decide when it's time to tell?  thx.

Pre-op I did...

Post op first 18 months I did...

By year 2 I knew way different!

I consider my health and physical status of no other person's business?

Does a typical hetro women on first meeting you go 'Hi I'm a hetero sexual girl....and I have had measles, have got genital herpes, and have recurring bad thrush'....

I very much doubt it?

So why this compulsion to reveal to strangers so much personal private detail about you?

Unless you're pre-op and you defo intend to get knickers off intimate?

Which in my book wouldn't happen for a long time even post-op.....

Quote from: Cruelladeville on September 22, 2010, 11:42:03 PM
Pre-op I did...

Post op first 18 months I did...

By year 2 I knew way different!

I consider my health and physical status of no other person's business?

Does a typical hetro women on first meeting you go 'Hi I'm a hetero sexual girl....and I have had measles, have got genital herpes, and have recurring bad thrush'....

I very much doubt it?

So why this compulsion to reveal to strangers so much personal private detail about you?

Unless you're pre-op and you defo intend to get knickers off intimate?

Which in my book wouldn't happen for a long time even post-op.....

Yeah thats what I'm thinking post-op. Although I'd probably bring it up at some point, like when we got serious.

Quote from: amandax on September 22, 2010, 11:33:55 PM
It seems hard to have clear cut for getting normal friendship and serious relationship at the beginning. I got to know a guy in Okcupid, we had good conversation and he want to date me. but I haven't told him my T status yet, should I tell him after our first date if I feel we have potential or before the meeting? I think I should be passable for the date.   I just met a lesibian and her girl friends who are are all around 20-30s last Sunday afternoon as Amanda, they had no clue I am a trans until I told her yesterday.  I just still has the feeling of guilt for lying and potentia hurt other persons feeling. Normally how you decide when it's time to tell?  thx.

I didnt tell my fiance till 2 months into our relationship when things started to get "Serious".  No sense in telling them on the first date because you might not like them anyway or they might not like you.  Second date maybe.. depends.  Once things are moving to the point of leading to something perm, you have to tell them no matter what. 

Quote from: Cowboi on September 10, 2010, 12:00:15 PM
Best advice I ever got in life was from an older male friend when I was 14, "Love will find you when you stop looking for it." And it was true.

Bianca and I actually fell in love while I was still in a relationship, the first night we spent hanging out was at a fundraising event for Night of a Thousand Stars (a big AIDs benefit for anyone who hasn't heard of it before).

Anyhow the story goes like this, my current fiancee and I attended together and when we got there someone told me that Bianca was there, apparently just moments before someone had told her I had arrived. This was odd because neither of us had spoken to anyone of having any interest in even being friends with each other. My immediate response was "Where?" Her response was "Behind you." From the moment I turned around and saw her standing behind me there has never been any doubt that I wanted to spend my life with her.

Love just happens.

@ cowboi:   Best real-life love story I've ever heard, man.  Beautiful, ... just beautiful!   ...


When it's RIGHT, you'll KNOW it.  Like all of you said, though, we've got to be out and about doing things that interest us with like-minded people.  Then, it'll happen ... eventually.  Man, I so needed to read this post and this thread.  My zest for life is finally renewed by this.  No more brooding in my room.  I'm gettin' out there ... and soon.   Peace & Happiness to all of you.