the bathroom issue notwithstanding, as a veteran and as a transwoman i have no desire to go to the VFW or similar places. as i have been a pizza deliverer in the past, i have been in many such places, so i know how they are, and it seems a very strange place to be. heck, as a man i wouldn't want to be there, but that might largely be based on age, as it's mostly old people there. as an older veteran, though, i imagine that you really stand out if you're trans.