My mom accepts me and she instantly did when I told her I was FTM but she would still refer to me as "she", "her" etc. and call me "girl" and other girly names and say I was pretty and beautiful but lately she says "You look pretty or handsome or whatever" and "you're a young man.....woman, whatever so you need to act like one" At the doctor the other day the nurse was calling me "he" and "sir" and I looked at my mom because I thought she would be mad but she just looked normal, not mad or anything. I asked her what she thought of the nurse calling me "He" and "Sir" and she said "You're my child, I don't think of you as male or female, I think of you as an angel and one of gods children", she's a really big christian. She said she didn't care if anyone said "he" or "she" but she still refers to me as a girl. My brother died so I think she feels as if she's losing two children and gaining only one, and I don't want her to feel that way because I love her and she's a really great and nice woman. She used to think LGBT people were an abomination until she found out what I was and then she accepted everything, If I'm a certain thing she accepts it in an instant and she's very protective of me. But I don't understand what she's doing because she calls me "handsome and then says pretty" she calls me a "young man and then quickly says young lady and then says young person" and my mother loves children and she's always wanted grandchildren and she sometimes gets mad at me and says she'll never have a biological grandchild and I don't know what to do because I will NEVER get pregnant and I'm straight so I want the girl to be pregnant and me the father.

My mum still refers to me by my male name and pronouns, but is very accepting.. I mean, we go shopping and she is happy to buy me female stuff.. I think it will take her a little time to come around.. I'm an only child, so I have to acknowledge that it must be hard for her to deal with..

The other night my mom said the sock I rolled up looked like I had an erection, I have no idea what a penis looks like so my mom got gauze rolls or something and rolled it up and said "This is the size and shape of a flaccid penis" I was like "WOW" she said to use it and I have been, it hasn't fallen apart and it actually looks like a penis through my underwear

I'm jealous. You're mom sounds rad.

Yeah.. they are still going to refer to you as female from tiem to time.. think of it. She's been calling you ______ and female and pretty for the last.. 15+ years likely (not sure your age)... to expect her to change that overnight is ridiculous. Give her some time, of course she's going to slip up from time to time. Just be happy your mom is sooooo accepting. Some parents completely disown their children, pretend they have died, will never call them by their prefered name and gender.. etc.

Good luck!

You have a great mom.

She's the best and I try not to but her in a difficult situation by asking her to call me "He" because she'll do it in her own time, I think she thinks I'll get mad if she calls me "He" but I'll only go into shock Most people find it surprising that my mom is a really big Christian and she accepts me.

Quote from: kelly_aus on October 12, 2010, 04:08:12 PM
My mum still refers to me by my male name and pronouns, but is very accepting.. I mean, we go shopping and she is happy to buy me female stuff.. I think it will take her a little time to come around.. I'm an only child, so I have to acknowledge that it must be hard for her to deal with..

This is pretty much my situation with my mom, shes been very accepting from the start as in she isn't in denial and she doesn't discourage me from displaying who I am, she would even catch herself when referring to me and my sisters as "my girls" and says "my kids"

But she still has the problem of calling me she, her and my birthname out in public (which by now frustrates me because then I'm probably seen as a lesbian by others :/ ) and she even "corrected" a lady when she asked "is this your son?" And said no its my daughter. I've found it embarrassing to go out with her lately.

Anyways, about your mom, its awesome she's accepting and hopefully it'll continue and I'm sure she'll get used to finally calling you male pronouns and preferred name, just give it time and be as understanding for your mom as you want her to be for you.