I got into trouble in a gay club for using the men's room. The security person said "boys only, wrong bathroom" when I was washing my hands and escorted me out. I have a card for when I visit the city nearby that has laws to protect transgender people. It pretty much says that telling me to use a certain bathroom, or not use a bathroom is discrimination...and lists the names of all the LGBT legal service type things in the area.

I would have lost my temper and said "I am in the right bathroom, stupid" but how did he know you weren't biologically male?

Quote from: Kentrie on October 14, 2010, 11:32:04 PM
I would have lost my temper and said "I am in the right bathroom, stupid" but how did he know you weren't biologically male?

Well...most people tend to read me as a butch lesbian, I guess that's what he thought.

Two kinds of guys...

... those that walk and in and go piss

... and those that wash

... before and after

And don't even think to use that as an excuse to use extra tissue

Quote from: Nygeel on October 14, 2010, 11:49:27 PM
Well...most people tend to read me as a butch lesbian, I guess that's what he thought.

I would have told him that he was wrong and I was male.

Quote from: Kentrie on October 15, 2010, 12:07:48 AM
I would have told him that he was wrong and I was male.

Well, either way I was kicked out/dragged out/escorted out. There have been other situations where I've been kicked out of restaurants and stuff...you just have to learn to tolerate it, I guess.

ugh i get nervous about bathrooms too, i really want a STP but i dont really have money and my parents just dont care about it or my transition in general that much


the other day i was in the movies with my sister and i had to go to pee and my sister wanted to go too
so i went running and she was after me walking and when i got to the bathrooms i was so nervous i didnt know which one to use, i mean if you go to the girls bathroom they will think you are a guy and if you go to the guys bathroom if you look feminine and you pee in stalls i think they are going to beat you up or something, i get really paranoid at bathrooms, in the end i just used the bathroom for people in wheelchairs, i had to sneak in because you can get yelled at for it,

all the bathroom stuff makes me really frustrated 

Talking about gay bars I've been in ones where they don't have a door on the stalls!  Just to insure that guys don't go in there to make out or whatever.   Well I'm confident but not confident enough to go pee on a toilet without a door.  Perhaps most people don't look but someone might.

So I end up not drinking much at all and holding it forever.  I really need a stp but money is so tight right now.  Sigh

I have noticed that I am less nervous in a super crowded bathroom.  i used all mens rooms while at an airport, and each time the bathrooms were packed.  With all of the men in there, no one even looked at me, I was even able to wash my STP, so much hussle to get in and get out left me unnoticed.

I feel more nervous when it is just one other person in there with me, cause I think they may say something.

Once while at college, I was washing my hands and this guy walked in, and murmored to himself "is this the wright bathroom" and checked the sign on the door (what a dick!) so I walked by him and left giving him a smug smile as he kinda mumbled "sorry"

I've made my own stp with my packer, but I was in the proccess of changing tubing and stuff, and never finished, so I've just been using my medicine spoon. I never get nervous going up to a urinal with it. Honestly, I think if a guy walks in and sees you standing at the urinal peeing, even if its with a basic medicine spoon, he's not gonna look or say anything. I wouldn't make not having an actual stp a factor

Actually, I never know what bathroom to use except for what they told me. That seems like the only real sense the birth gender makes because otherwise it opens the possibility to be found as a pervert.

Make both bathrooms the same inside and there should be no question which one to use.

P.S. I recognize the mtf challenge to use the men's bathroom, or any woman that tries, is basically a crossdresser.  Sure it's not clothes to put on, yet it is the same motive.

This bathroom thing is confusing me. Which one do I use?

Quote from: Kentrie on October 19, 2010, 02:45:57 AM
This bathroom thing is confusing me. Which one do I use?

To put it that way; you could loop this thread with obscurity.

Did one bathroom point you to go to the other bathroom?

Some doors make this choice more efficient. (P.S. "End Of Line" with "staying alive" on ipod doorbell.)

P.S. The law doesn't let us describe the hall between these doors. Conservation of energy +1.

Quote from: Kentrie on October 19, 2010, 02:45:57 AM
This bathroom thing is confusing me. Which one do I use?

Just use the men's, unless there's some external factor forcing you to use the women's.

Quote from: kyril on October 19, 2010, 03:10:04 AM
Just use the men's, unless there's some external factor forcing you to use the women's.

One door has a man impression and one has many impressions.

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