Quote from: spacial on October 19, 2010, 05:40:35 AM
The more I think about this melody, I would suggest she approaches as someone ready to support them, rather than their child.

Yes, that sounds good.

I started having trans feeling when  I was around 8 or 9 I have fought it my whole life...

I think defining the child as TS is not wise...

Infoming the childs mother on any level is going to sound alarm bells.... defo if you state its to do with sexuality....

Gender Dysphoria is the safest term to use at this stage....

And ideally (the advice) should come from the childs school end or Dr /medic.... or someone that's more third-party qualified to talk about identity issues....

But it easy as an adult with hindsight to wish for this intervention....but many normal kids do have a fair amount of flexibility with pre puberty gender play....

Ultimately tis best driven by the child themselves and if the behaviour is acute many professionals are now more primed to pick up on the cues...

we have to remember that melody isn't fully out and fully transitioned throught surgery so isn't actually a prime example of successful transition yet.

No, I am more of an example of what can happen if you ignore it. We would never approach this as "hey, your kid has GID and you might want to do something about it." My wife wants to tell her what is going on in our life and let the mom connect the dots. I am just about all the way out at this point and will probably be moving out of my neighborhood at the end of this year. I could care less what the neighbors think. As for school officials, I have reason not to put a lot of faith there.

melody.

Off topic, but your wife sounds really great and supportive.

Quote from: spacial on October 20, 2010, 06:17:42 PM
melody.

Off topic, but your wife sounds really great and supportive.

Thank you for saying that. It will make her feel better.

She is those things and she is also very smart and emotionally strong. I love her and she loves me. All these things make our divorce harder. It is one thing to divorce someone you no longer care about, but it is quite another to divorce someone because you love them and want to see them happy. I know we will be friends and happier in the end, but for now it just makes us incredibly sad.