Bullies and the Bullied
10/08/2010 — Suzan

http://womenborntranssexual.com/2010/10/08/bullies-and-the-bullied/

Bullies are bullies because they reflect the patriarchal paradigm.

Bullies are considered tough.  Because being tough means being able to dish out pain, hurt and humiliation without feeling guilt.

Being able to take pain, hurt and humiliation without being destroyed by
it is called celebrating one's victimization. Even though surviving such abuse without committing suicide or killing one's tormentor takes great strength.

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Bullies and the Bullied

http://ts-si.org/guest-columns/27083-bullies-and-the-bullied
Suzan Cooke   
10/10/10

Bullies are bullies because they reflect the patriarchal paradigm. Bullies are considered tough. Because being tough means being able to dish out pain, hurt and humiliation without feeling guilt.

Being able to take pain, hurt and humiliation without being destroyed by it is called celebrating one's victimization. Even though surviving such abuse without committing suicide or killing one's tormentor takes great strength. Destroying the lives of others is rewarded while having one's life destroyed by bullying is punished further by people who treat the victims of bullying as weak and cowardly, unworthy of decent opportunities in life.

Best thing for bullies is a thump in the head from someone they didn't expect to do it, while they are bullying another person.
I know because I did it to one in HS, while he was picking on a kid half his size.  Made him think twice about the reaction of other bystanders, and what it was like to be on the receiving end for once.