I've been feeling almost like two personalities also: One the female part which was the part society told me I was, the other the male who's been in hiding for a long time, and here he is, metaphorically speaking.
Not that I totally feel like two people...but that right now, I look at what to put on and how to act in terms of "Is this going to make me feel emasculated or not (since the biogender's female)?" (Basically, pants=ok. Skirts, uck right now.) And I wish there were some sort of social/legal status that doesn't cause me to be only part of who I am, like I've been.
Well, that's a scary and difficult thing to want. To look between genders out in the world, maybe to take hormones at some future point, even to fight a political struggle to be acknowledged as third-gender...I have to work for a living in a world that isn't kind to its' misfits.
So, of course a large part of me wants to forget about all of it and go back to just being a cisgendered woman who happens to prefer the practicality of men's clothes.
I just doubt I can do that, having figured it out, without making myself way nuttier. That would be bad.
Too...cisgendered people, well, for them, there are little social blueprints for how to do things, you know...and yes, they do shift over time, but there still is a sort of blueprint for how to do things. Sex roles are getting less rigid, but they're still alive and well.
For cisgendered people new to the dating scene, there are magazines, and well, they tell you the blueprints in current fashion-admittedly, what the fashionable way is to pick up the opposite sex is usually what the magazines say, not the magazines reporting on actual dating data.(because actual research eats profit margins)
There aren't any "official" gender roles for androgynes. No set behavior patterns. It's quite disturbing to think about-at least for yours truly. No ads saying "Smell like a true androgyne with new Huh? deodorant," or such.
I don't know about you, but I've never seen "dating tips for the transgendered person," on the cover of any supermarket checkout stand glossie.