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I feel guilty?

Started by Devyn, October 30, 2010, 09:01:59 PM

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Devyn

Basically, I came out to my best friend a few weeks ago after she told me at the mall that I'm not a guy because she noticed me interested in guy's clothes at one of the stores.

Well, we were at the mall today and when I was looking at the guy's shirts (I was very hesitant to do so after she had said that to me. When she said that to me a while ago, it really really bothered me and I became severely depressed.) While she wasn't looking, I started checking out the plaid shirts and she walked up to me and said, "If you want to buy guy's clothes, there's some cool guy shirts at American Eagle."

That made me so happy, yet at the same time, I felt guilty.

I feel guilty for feeling like I'm forcing people to get used to the idea that I'm a guy. I feel guilty for putting the people I care about through this.

Still. Her accepting that made me so happy. I asked later if she was mad at me because I felt guilty, and she asked why I thought she was mad at me. I didn't have the guts to say it and said that I didn't know and she said that she's not mad at me and hugged me.

I'm glad to know that I'm not losing my best friend. She had said before that she would be proud of me no matter what. I'm so happy. (:

But still. I feel guilty even though I shouldn't. Is that weird?

I think I just felt guilty-awkward because she found a button at Hot Topic that said something about listening to your inner wiener and told me that I should buy it because it was funny and she said, "But, you have an inner wiener, don't you?" And I was all, "Yes, but my mom will get mad at me if I wear that." To be honest, I just felt awkward talking about it.
I'm not used to talking about my sexuality and whatnot. I feel like everybody should just know. That's my trouble with coming out as bisexual or trans, I find it difficult to talk about out loud.
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icontact

that comment could easily have been said in a "i worry about your fashion sense in a bitchy way" sort of comment. i say such things to guys who wear skintight jeans and really shouldn't, like "you're not a girl, please don't wear such pants because they don't flatter you." if she's accepting now, it probably wasn't meant to be a cruel comment at all. just don't think about it.
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James42

I don't think its weird to feel that way, because i kinda felt similar. I just came out to my best friend and she was so understanding, she said she'd be supportive and was even excited when I asked her to be the one to go with me for top surgery. Even tho she said it was alot to take in, she still seemed more than ok with it, so I kinda felt guilty too because its such big news, i felt bad for laying it all on her. But think about it this way, if friends are being supportive, thats what you want, so just take it and don't feel bad. I'm sure your friend doesn't want you to feel bad thats why she's showing you she supports you.
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