Well, I don't know if anyone is interested in this still, but I figured I'd post my experiences anyway, on the offchance that it helps someone
(Also, first ever post guys! I'm nervous!
)
Well, I've only been out for about a year, but I live in Australia (everyone is so accepting here! Yay!) and I had the straight forward approach to telling people/coming out. I wasn't really very tactful, pretty much using the 'I'm a dude, if you don't like it, GTFO!' approach. A lot of my friends told me that just proved what I was explaining though
But regardless, I'm out now, and just finishing up with college. EVERYONE at my school knows pretty much, and the ones who don't and give funny faces at the mixup of pronouns used around me just get laughed at good naturedly.
I've always been heavy on the guys, like, FLAMIN! But I'm also the top personality, and (like to think) I'm quite manly, so my poor friends are always very confused, but seem to handle it okay with a little light explaination
But most important was this SUPER sexy male friend of mine (who I'd been crushing on for forever
) and he was so great. He had admitted a few times when I was female to finding me attractive. He was one of the first people I told, and surprisingly was totally cool with it! He said he was straight, but I knew otherwise, and with a lot of gentle conversation and prodding he finally admitted he might be a 'little' attracted to guys, which he said wasn't being helped by my involvment in the matter. I would laugh and tell him I totally didn't count, at which point he would argue and say that I did.
I didn't understand that statement at first, but he took to me being a guy almost as well as I did! I think it just made sense in his brain and clicked, because he instantly started calling me by my new legally changed name, and even started to use male pronouns to describe me, regardless of company. If he was around friend when talking about me, and they got confused, he even went so far as to calmy explain my situation to them
After a few months of this, and more gentle prodding on his sexuality, it because apparent that he's MUCH more into guys than he would readily admit to at first (most especially to himself!) and that he was still struggling with the fact that he found me attractive, but now as a guy. Eventually we came to the conclusion that he was bisexual, but with a bias for men, meaning he's not at all interested in a relationship with women, just attracted to them sexually.
Finally, after a long time of beating around the bush and lots of flirting, we ended up in an informal relationship (meaning we were everything but were sketchy saying 'couple') in which he completely saw me as a guy. Not only that, but I'm the top in our relationship! Obviously there are some guys in this thread who are happy with sexual intercourse or touching or whatever, but I personally can't stand the idea of him seeing me downstairs, or even touching my chest, but what was more surprising was the fact that he was of the same opinion
He says seeing my female parts would just screw with his head because it's so deeply ingrained on him that I'm a guy, which mostly just means lots of solo sexing for him (lucky boy!
).
After a few months of that relationship, I got impatient and jealous (wanted him mine damnit!) and asked him out formaly. And the adorable boy! Omgosh, he was so happy he cried! He said that he takes me for who I am, and wouldn't have me any other way, and also that he's never felt so happy in any other relationship in his life, than he has with screwed up old me
So here I am now, not on T or anything, but wearing a binder, presenting as male and openly out, with a boyfriend who will readily admit to his friends that I'm a guy (and just how much he likes having my fingers inside him! O.O He really needs to keep some things to himself!) and who's only issue with it is that he keeps slipping up to his parents and calling me
he! He's preparing to come out to them soon with the mindset of 'You like my boyfriend the way he is or GTFO!' (we seem to have that approach in common
) and say's he plans to live out his life with me.
So it can and does happen
Also, as another note, I socialise a lot with gay people, and they've never seemed to have an issue with me. My best friend is gay, and was the first person I told, and the only thing he had to say on it was 'Well that explains a lot!' which was quickly followed by 'If you ever get surgery, we should totally be f*** buddies.' I can say he's the most polite person I know, be he's a fantastic example of someone who's so gay they sparkle, and he (and all of his millions of past and present boyfriends) has never had a problem with me.
Ahhhhh, I had no idea how long this post went on for! I'm so sorry!!! Got carried away talking about my amazing bf, I'll stop now
Hope I helped some!
