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A chance at reproduction?

Started by Cody Jensen, November 14, 2010, 05:57:46 PM

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Cody Jensen

Hi, I haven't transitioned yet but I'm considering it and I have been doing a LOT of thinking. So I was thinking, if I ever wanted to have my own kids, how that would work, and if I married a woman, how that would work for us. I have heard the theory where you can save your eggs and mix them with another man's sperm, and I figured I could do that and my wife could be the surrogate mother, so technically it wouldn't be her kid, but it kind of would because she's carrying it and mostly raising it just like it would normally be? I have some questions: 1) How many women do you think would be willing to do that if the kid isn't at all really theirs, and would that affect my chances of reproduction as an FtM, 2) when you save your eggs, I guess you would have to do that somehow right away before you transition?, and 3) could you somehow increase the chance of the kid looking more like you? 

Sorry if these questions are too complicated or somehow inappropriate but like I said I've been doing a LOT of thinking and I feel that these questions just NEED to be answered!
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Sean

You could have your eggs harvested, frozen, inseminated, and then implanted in another person. In a nutshell, they can save eggs, ovarian tissue (not helpful yet but medical technology is improving) or embryos. There is no guarantee that any eggs extracted from you would survive or form healthy embryos, though. It is a process that works better if you know who the donor would be, so you can freeze embryos in the first place, not banked eggs or tissue. Plus, there is no guarantee that the implantation of the embryo would 'take' in the woman you are with.

Beyond that, both procedures are invasive (for you in the first place & for your future spouse).This is an expensive route. It can be a painful (physically) route. It involves (hormone) drug regimens. But it can work. And, yes, you would want to do this before starting T, ideally.

Of course, your future wife may wish to bear children from her OWN eggs, with her own genetic DNA. Sure, there are women who are willing to serve as surrogates for others, particularly when someone close to them can't carry her own child. At the same time, your wife may wish that your kids have part of her too. Saying: well, you can be the surrogate is a lot like saying: you can go through the challenges and risks of pregnancy without getting the outcome of it being your bio kid! Some women will not like this idea. In fact, I would suggest that most women would think that it is selfish of you to ask them to carry YOUR bio-child at greater risk/invasive procedure to themselves, without regard for whether it is their bio-kid too.

If what you really care about is whether the child has your genetic material or looks like you, do you have any brothers or close male relatives who could maybe be sperm donors? That's the best way in my opinion.

There are reproductive endocrinologists and other doctors who can do a better job explaining your options to you. If you care a lot about having kids, you should probably plan to see one prior to starting T.
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Cody Jensen

Hey, I noticed you suggested using a close relative's sperm to ensure the child will look like you. I was wondering, isn't that unhealthy or something for the child if you technically, you know, have a kid with your own family member?
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Osiris

What he's saying is if you don't use your own eggs that your wife could use her own eggs and that the sperm could be from a family member so that you're still biologically related to the child. This is an either/or situation.
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Cody Jensen

oh THAT makes sense now! but then I suppose you couldn't really call the kid "your son" could you?
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Pundit

Quote from: Josh T on November 15, 2010, 12:52:43 AM
oh THAT makes sense now! but then I suppose you couldn't really call the kid "your son" could you?
Sure, you could, if you raise the kid. I mean, think of adopted children and their parents. The parents still refer to their adopted children as their sons and/or daughters. There's no way you're going to be able to combine both you and your partner's DNA to form a child, since you'll both have egg cells, but not any sperm cells. It's just a medical impossibility, sorry to say.
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Cody Jensen

Yeah, I guess you're right. I was also thinking of adopting a kid that might look like me. That's another option too right? It's probably less trouble too. But I've got a LOT of time to think about this, so I guess I'll worry about other things right now, like trying to figure out who I am in the first place  :)
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