Hey all, haven't been on in a while to chat with everyone. You all know how life gets. I wish I was visiting with good news, but sadly not.

I know some will remember me asking about therapy and that I applied to get counseling through the Cherokee Nation here where I live, as it's my only form of health care. I applied way back at the end of September I think and waited to get a letter telling my a therapist had accepted my case/file and to show up on Oct. 28 for orientation and fill out paperwork then proceed from there. Well, I guess no one accepted my file because I was not scheduled and no letter ever came. Not even a rejection one. I called before I signed up and they said yes, theyy do cover gender disorders but I guess that was just....a lie? Fib? Ignorant receptionist?

I don't know what to do now. I was really counting on getting some help, even if it was just talking to someone. From guys at my work making fun of "->-bleeped-<-s", homossexuals, and "them damn he she ->-bleeped-<-s" to my wife calling me gay again. (My friends on here now all to well what my wife has done). ((Also, no one at work knows I am TG)

As a result I stopped everything. I don't dress up, no make up, no talking about it, nothing. To be honest it's a bit depressing.

So what's a girl to do in this situation? I don't know what to do...

Sorry to hear it has gone nowhere.  Perhaps a letter, rather than phoning them, asking what is happening, as you were led to believe you would be given an appointment.

Personally, I would be on the phone Monday morning and finding out why, but I am that kind of broad.

I was thinking that it would be harder for them to ignore a written contact, rather than just being able to say that they will "get back to you".

They can always say "Oh Gee We never got it".  Show up in person.

Quote from: JessicaG on November 20, 2010, 08:44:43 PMI applied way back at the end of September I think and waited to get a letter telling my a therapist had accepted my case/file and to show up on Oct. 28 for orientation and fill out paperwork then proceed from there. Well, I guess no one accepted my file because I was not scheduled and no letter ever came. Not even a rejection one. I called before I signed up and they said yes, theyy do cover gender disorders but I guess that was just....a lie? Fib? Ignorant receptionist?

Jessica, sorry to hear this, but just a question or two?  Were you told a specific date when you should expect the letter?  Just wondering here, and I realize it's not an exact parallel, but in my case, I went to my doctor (GP) back in July to get a medical referral to the place in Toronto where they do assessments... it's a long story.  But after I went to the doctor, about four weeks later I got a questionnaire in the mail, and I filled that out and sent it back.  I sent it in on Sept. 3, and didn't hear a PEEP until just this past Monday.  That's over 2 months.  But then I DID hear, and now I have an appointment (see my ticker below).

I guess I'm just wondering if it might just be typical bureaucratic slowness - maybe your file is just winding its way through the bowels of the beast?  Not sure why you're assuming you've been ignored.  This is the Guv'Mint we be talkin' about, no?

@ Janet I think I will do that. I won't go in person because I am too nervous. lol. But I will confront them. Writing a letter would be too much a hassle, it's literally right down the road.

@Colleen  Wow! Look at your avatar pic! You have come a long way! Yay!!! But I was to expect a letter in roughly 2 weeks. (Thats the norm for anything.) Even a denial is in 2 weeks, so Im not sure.


Thanks girls.

Quote from: JessicaG on November 20, 2010, 11:33:06 PM@Colleen  Wow! Look at your avatar pic! You have come a long way! Yay!!!

Gosh, thanks, Jessica!  Yes, a decent wig and some breastforms DO make a difference, don't they?  I'm even shaving everywhere now.  AND my therapist has written my HRT letter.  So I'm looking forward to January, and my assessment, and then when I get the letter, which I fully expect will confirm that this is who I AM, I will be ready to move forward.  It feels frickin' great to finally know when it will all start to happen.  I will keep you in my thoughts, I hope you get this sorted out...

So far I've got nothing but, "What's your name and number....well get back to you."


/sigh.  Bureaucratic bull poop.

Well I called, all I got was that they w ere very busy and that I won't have a chance to do orientation till late January much less a first bad session. I need some help....anyone have any ideas that i can chexk? Free therapy....government funds....anything?