Been so in love with someone that doesnt like you back.. who straight up told you they would never be with you, but despite how hard you try you can stop being completely in love with them? And you think about it all day and all night and it hurts so bad, but you just cant help it?

Yes.

Once in high school. Now with my best friend.

You don't exactly "get over" it, but you move on with your life, and eventually you realize they're not nearly as perfect as you thought they were. Or they get old and chubby and bald. Either way, eventually it just fades into the background. Doesn't make it a whole lot easier at the time, though.

Yes.

Hurts, big time.

As kyril says, you don't get over it. I still see them in my daydreams. Never going to happen.

Yes, in Secondary schoool (not sure what that corresponds to in the American system but I was about 15/16). She didn't tell me directly but I overheard her saying this in response to her friends asking her whether she would go out with me... It was somewhere on the lines of  "no way! his hair is too long, too fat and such a loner"  It hurt to hear that. It took me about 1 year after we finished secondary school to forget about her and by that time, I liked someone else but she turned out to be a huge disappointment, partially my fault, but thats another story on its own.

As its so typically part of most u'mans experience, defo in adolescence....

I think its more a case of has anyone not....

Hrm, I remember being overwhelmed by hormonal "love" in high school. The raging pace of hormones was too strong to resist back then, and I found myself in "love" or at least infatuated with this particular girl. She outright refused me because of my race (she was a white girl who dated only black guys), but I still pestered her.

Besides that, nothing truly considered love. I'm still really young (21) and most of my time has been spent fighting myself internally. It will be nice to get out and get my heart broken a time or two for once. (Yeah, not like any of us wish for that, huh?)

Unrequited love is the worst thing ever!

Yes, that has happened to me once or twice.  I hate experiencing emotions that strong.  I'm usually not a very emotional person and I like it that way.  Fortunately, it all fades with time.

Thanks everyone, i really appreciate the responses. Yes unrequited love does suck. I just love her so much, and if Im trying to date someone else, I can only think of her. I guess Ill just have to give it more time and move on.. eventually.

Yes I have.  And it is my ex wife.  Many things have happened between us and we shall never be again.  But I still have a special place in my heart for her.

Quote from: spacial on November 21, 2010, 03:51:49 AM
Yes.

Hurts, big time.

As kyril says, you don't get over it. I still see them in my daydreams. Never going to happen.

Friggin' A, baby!  There's this one girl in particular I first went ape->-bleeped-<- for in ... September of 1970.  STILL "crush out" on her from time to time ... or, rather, her as she was back in The Day.

Get THIS:  In about 1977/1978, a mutual good friend of both hers and mine talked to her ... she was crushing out on me too!!!  F---!!!  I never had the cajones to ask her out .. she woulda said yes!

Too late now, Bubbaloo ... sigh ...     Time machine?  Anybody got a time machine?   

Yes and no.

It's rare that I feel for someone like that. But oddly enough, I'm in one of those rare moments.

Absolute infatuation, mentally and physically.

I catch a glance, and it physically feels like someone has punched me in the chest. They're all I think about when I have a spare moment. I'm always on the lookout for them. I hang on their every word when we talk. I've stood outside in the rain, the cold, and the direct summer heat just on the off chance they pass by (well, and so I can have a smoke, but hey - I've lingered outside longer than I had to! ).

And them seeing me, and coming up to me with a big grin because I was there was the best feeling in the world. When they followed me back to where I had to go and poked their tongue out at me in a cute way, I just about died on the spot.

When they haven't seen me, I find I can't shout out a greeting because there's a lump in my throat.

I've never had it this bad, by far (I blame the T).

He's a coworker. And straight. And he has a girlfriend. To top it off, I'm in the closet - both regarding being trans, and being gay. If anyone ever found out, my career would be over. My social standing would be ruined.

But I'm used to it. No person I've ever loved like that has ever reciprocated.


I once had a crush - but nowhere near as strong as this one. Went on for years. My ex found out... and told them. I played down my attraction. Being told that they "didn't see me that way" was the thing that finally allowed me to get over them. Yes, it hurts, but sometimes it's what you need to hear to move on.

Just be thankful you're in a position to hear what you need to hear from them.

Errr... sorry for the emo post folks, I can't tell anyone I know in real life about it - so it just kinda slipped out I'm normally much more private!

These comments , well they sum up most events in my life . ellen

Unrequited love is the worst thing ever!

Nah, kinda sucks, makes it real hard to get laid, but it doesn't ruin your life.  Having the wrong person love you is much worse.  Far more people fall into the wastelands because of a bad someone, its' rare they get there all on their own.