I'm going to come out to my dad soon... does anyone have any suggestions?

My dad's always been distant and uncomfortable talking about emotional stuff (although since my mom got him going to therapy he's been improving a little). He's a computer techie, which has meant that the only thing we've ever really been able to bond over is talking about electronics and science projects. And he never really treated me like a girl particularly, which was nice, but I really don't think he's that open-minded or remotely knowledgeable about LGBT stuff. It's also going to be awkward coming out to him as bisexual (again), too, since I'm still with my boyfriend...

@brainiac: Your dad sounds a lot like mine. If they really are alike, chances are he's going to internalize everything. If you want it to work, you have to make sure to communicate everything to him and make sure he understands everything the best he can. If possible, make sure he has someone other than you to talk to about it.
I wish I had explained everything better to my dad...I thought I did, but he was actually in the dark about my transition, and still is, and now our relationship has kind of hit a wall. I failed to realize it was just as hard for him as it is for me until it was too late, and now we can't talk about it at all. We're both really suffering from it.

That's all I can really think to say for now...Good luck.

I was so worried when it came time to tell my dad, but he said to just tell him when I wanted him to start calling me by my guy name and that if there was any way he could help me, he would. He doesn't really do guy stuff like you listed, so it's not like we will ever do father/son stuff. Recently I decided to slow down transition and think and he seemed relieved at that, but whatever I choose to do he's basically on board.

I'm still in the closet but my dad is cool with everything I do. To him I am a butch and we do all the father/son things together.

I've been a little queer since birth.  My parents knew and accepted me as soon as "the wrong body" was uttered from my mouth [My dad knows quite a bit about psychological medicine ect. and they're both very logical loving people.]  It just took 20 years then for me to come around to being like "hey guys lets do something about this"

Video games has always been our big thing.  Starting with the NES of course =]
We [and then I individually as I got older and it stopped being a partner worthy project] built model cars and planes.
Had astronomy nights with his telescopes.
We tried the whole catch thing at one point...
I feel like I even had a toy shaving kit when I was little... or at least would pretend.... maybe not... its fuzzy.

so nerd-guy stuff.  =]

Hes accepting, but hes really slow at readjusting his pronouns 

Aw man! I was super scared of telling my dad! He's never been terribly active in my life, so I thought he'd yell and raise heck...

As it turned out, he was more fine with it than my mom, who I'm closer with! He even started using male pronouns and proudly introducing me as his son. It really is a great feeling, isn't it?

You guys with the cool accepting dads are the luckiest guys on earth...
Im afraid that my dad is going to be that one person that will never understand, or accept me... Hes told me before "as long as youre happy" and blah blah blah but I know him, hes old school, everythings his way... and im his "lil girl", I would totally understand if he wont respect my wishes... but im sure he may never get me.
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Be thankful for those accpeting people in your life, at least for those who try really hard to be.

@Femboy: honestly, though, I've never had the best relationship with my dad. I would rather have my mom accept me more than my dad! I suppose dads are scarier than moms, though, eh?

My father accepts me, I've always been a "daddy's child". He used to call me his kid a lot, not so much of daughter. He taught me how to write HTML code, we built LEGO together, played computer- and videogames together, we play roleplaying games together. We have a nice relationship.

I keep looking for a way to get in touch with my father without my mother's finding out. I know it's impossible...at least, I almost know that it's impossible. I guess I haven't quite accepted it yet. When I think about it, I start doing this hamster wheel thing, spinning and spinning the problem in my head and not finding a solution. I try not to think about it too much because then I get obsessed and can't seem to get off the hamster wheel.

He's pushing eighty, but I think he would accept me after the initial shock wore off.

She wouldn't, and I don't care about her anyway.

I heard that my father was mad at first (glad I did it by letter). But he calmed down (I can get a temper too) and started doing research and read the book I gave them. Things started piecing together for him and we had many talks about it. The father-son type talks were humorous. He's still adjusting but everyone is. It takes time, especially for family. He does treat me more as a man now and we continue doing our manly things. He's trying to get me into hunting. Now, I'm a fishing fool but don't have interest in hunting yet. However, I do enjoy a good round of skeet.

He was the family member I was most concerned about but it's went very well. I'm glad because I'm closest to him. There's still adjustments for the whole family but it comes with time.

That's great.  I'm not out to my parents yet, but I'm expecting them to be cool about it.  My dad's one of my best friends, so I'm a little nervous about changing our relationship.  I'm waiting until after my first psychologist appointment to talk to them, so keep your fingers crossed for me.