I have been more or less out with my cd, tv-ing for quite some time now. I do tend to wear a skirt and or heels as a man at random times when it seems ok to do so. But, the real question here is how do any of you deal with your children? My daughter is 17 and my son is 10. I have jumped into "honesty is the best policy" with mine and have actually engaged age appropriate conversations with them. Yet sometimes I can't help but wonder if that's the right approach or not. I know I can't create a tv by exposing my boy, and I think it's better to make them think I care enough to be honest. Maybe I have better chances of getting honesty out of them as they grow? Thoughts?
Thanx,
Pansy

I think kids learn much more from what their parents do then by what they say.

While I don't have children, I've heard from others here, that they simply tell them the truth.

Seems like a good approach. Lie to your children, you just make them think you don't trust them and teach them how to lie.

Children will love you regardless.

I once sometimes wore skirts when I were with kids, but nowadays I seldom do that. My kids know very well about my ->-bleeped-<-, although I have never talked about it seriously with my kids.

As long as I sustain my family, no serious problem.

Sometimes my little daughter at age 6 mentions my photos in en femme, and also sometimes called me Mom. Her brothers make fun of her by saying like "you behave like a boy". Yes. She likes singing military songs. But she becomes upset when people say she is like a boy. She is cute, but very active. She scolds me when I look like a woman too much, but she also wish to apply some of my cosmetics. I once gave her my blue manicure, as she begged it.

I think moderately feminine clothes would be better to eyes of my kids. For example, long skirts would be better than short ones. I usually wear hot pants in summer, and skinny jeans in winter.

Barbie~~

My theory is simple, when mine asks, I'll be honest and tell the truth. Until then its hidden from sight.

Hi, Pansy and welcome

As a parent who has been a mile or two in your heels, I think you would do them a disfavor if you were anything but honest - and at 17, a young lady should probably be respected as an adult for all practical purposes. 

Our daughter first saw me in a skirt at about 5 and Chelle explained it to her as a game of grown-up dress up - just like she did sometimes.  That quelled her curiosity for a while and before long she knew that whenever "daddy" was dressed up, it was OK to call her Susan.  Rather than tempt her by asking her to keep a secret, we said it was a private game and she was happy to be a part of it.  A total non-issue. 

When she in her early teens and Chelle and I were semi-active in Tri-Ess, she came with us and became something of a darling among us and our wives.  Daughter was (and still is) something of a "tomboy" but along the journey, she learned professional make up tricks she still uses, how to walk in heels and other enhancements to her femininity.  Of course by then, she knew the truth about me and us but has never betrayed any trusts.  (Her daughter is a "girly girl" and mom wonders what's wrong – why doesn't she like climbing rocks or trees?) 

Susan is a part of me that won't go away – nor would I wish it.  Having the support of your entire family is priceless. 

Susan

Cool, Thank you all for your insight. I really appreciate it, and my psychotherapist also feels I am going about it in the responsible manner... In some other news kinda local to me....

http://www.denverpost.com/news/ci_16843484?source=rss

Trinidad, Co. is going through a sad change.

Actually, since there are far more trans persons in NorCal than in Trinidad I don't see the problem.  It's like moving the marina closer to the water.  For people traveling to see her it's going to be a lot easier to get to SF than Trinidad, like we even have an airport.  Served by major carriers even.  There is public transportation so you won't need a car.  Lot's of variety in lodging choices and dining.  I think it's going to be a win-win for just about everyone who needs her skills except those that are living in South East Colorado.

And all that makes sense, and I entirely agree. I just hope Colorado don't start taking baby steps backwards...

Quote from: dedbonz on December 13, 2010, 11:54:46 AM
And all that makes sense, and I entirely agree. I just hope Colorado don't start taking baby steps backwards...

They can take it only if we give it to them...

That depends on who the people of Colorado put into power, not on a single doctor.

This is a tough one. I have kids and none are aware yet. However, I am sure the time will come.
But yea, Being honest is the best. Be sure of timing.

Timing was always the stressful part for me, but so far their questions and/ or statements have driven it. So far they are surprisingly well adjusted considering all me awkward lifestyle choices, ideas and basic nonsense that i put out to the general public.... lol.
And thanx again for your insight and thoughts!
This forum is proving to be something I needed!

Adults always think they are so clever in concealing things from kids, at lying to them, misleading them.  Kids of course are rarely being fooled and just learn to consider adults to be full of crap, which is why kids don't listen to adults very much.  Pretty much after the age of 4 or 5 you can tell that you are being condescended to, even if you don't know the word.

I told my youngest son years ago and he is ok with it, he even has seen me wearing a red slip while we went bowling(my shirt botton came undone)  he told me I am dad regardless of what I wear.  I told my youngest daughter too. she said she dosent care and she is 15.  My son is now 30.  It depends on your kid wether you should tell or not.  I have an older daughter and she would not like it if I were to dress.  You just have to feel around to see if they are ready to hear it?

My son knows I wear hosiery, he's seen me in them nearly every day.  He asked about them once, we answered his questions and it hasn't come up in the past 4  years.  He was 7 then (he's my step son, btw)  but we keep my wearing skirts etc hidden.  He spends a week with us and a week with his Dad and we feel like my dressing might be used against us in custody issues. 

I do wear support hosiry daily for circulation issues, as well as comfort.  But I tend to think honesty is the best policy.  Kids will love and accept you for you, key is to bring them along like its normal and not something to be ashamed of.

I have three adult daughters who know about my dressing although I dont't dress in front of them. Being a widower makes my dressing a little easier at times.  My oldest daughter lives at home with her boyfriend.   My middle married daughter thinks I have a problem.  She thinks my VA psychologist is curing me.  Funny thing is that the cure she thinks is opposite the one I am getting, accepting myself for what I am.
 

Samantha