First of all Hi, my first post, don't bite please!
I'm not going to go into a long rambling introduction about myself, it's 4:40am so I'll leave that for another time in a dedicated thread
Basically I'm wanting to get things started with my GP and tell my girlfriend that I'm really a woman (preferably in that order)
My problem is: my mother works as a receptionist at my GP surgery (eeek!!!) Anyone know how far this whole privacy thing stretches I would hate my mother to find this out on a stray piece of paperwork.
I'm dreading telling my girlfriend, but I'm just going to have to do it (my god that's the most scary thought in the world!)
Anyways thanks for reading my ramblings, Nikki x

Hi Nikki,

First we are a support group, we don't bite, we may chew and we do lots of that, but we are a family that generally gets on well. You will get posts about ToS etc, please read and obey them. They explain the basics and the rules.

OK I'm in Australia but came from the UK (Liverpool). I'm also involved in the medical profession. My opinions are mine and are not professional.

One: change your GP. No matter how professional your Mum and GP are it will cause a very difficult working environment, as GID is not acute you have time to look around. Try your local GLTG  societies to ask for medics who are TG competent . Look for them on the Net, it's very easy. If your girlfriend is a straight female there is probably little chance of the relationship continuing. If she is a lesbian there is. But  if she is a straight female who wants a male partner and children and the whole female dream why should you burden her with your GID. Think hard on this. This is a big decision. You have the right to live your life. You have no right to spoil hers. OK some of us get married in the incredible hope of becoming 'normal' and it only later that we realise we are normal. And we then can ruin someones dreams.

This is not an easy journey. And once you start there are few chance to go back. There is no way of un-telling to the girl friend. There is no way of pretending it was a joke at work. Seek a therapist and discuss it with them. This is a journey many of us have taken. But please do not do it lightly.

Hope it all works out

Cindy

Hello Nikki H welcome to our yellow submarine. Ditto change GP if you don't want mum to know.

Quote from: CindyJames on January 04, 2011, 03:12:46 AM

OK I'm in Australia but came from the UK (Liverpool).

Love Australia I have relatives there as well as in Wales England, Cardiff actually. Belgium and Holland.
But remind me of your being from (Liverpool)should you come visit me in Canada, so I can remove my hub caps and lock them in the trunk. "boot"

lol 

Hugs Simone

Quote from: Simone V on January 04, 2011, 05:13:50 AM
But remind me of your being from (Liverpool)should you come visit me in Canada, so I can remove my hub caps and lock them in the trunk. "boot"

lol 

Hugs Simone

Being Canadian you should know that there's nothing funny 'abooot' stereotypes  . But when I visit Canada I'll be having hockey fights and covering all my food in maple syrup.

Greg *staring lovingly at my stolen hub cab collection* 

If you are scared of your mother finding out you aren't ready to transition but assuming that you think you are then all you have to do to make an appointmnet is to say you need to discuss a personal matter with the doctor.
then think up some excuse that your mother will not see is a downright lie.

at my doctors the receptionist can scan down my medical record if need be so there doesn't seem to be any locking of patient information so there is the distinct possibility that your receptionist mother might inadvertantly become aware of your medical complaint - but as I've said ad nauseum TSism is a recognised medical condition with a recognised course of treatment that guarantees a cure so the more that people are familiar with it the better.

Thanks! You know, maybe I am thinking too quickly, patience isn't my strong point!
I think I'm going to change doctors and then make an appointment because I think I just really need someone to tell me what I'M thinking is ok, I have for the past 5 years atleast had an inner dialogue telling me I'm a woman, manageing to persuade myself I was just being daft and "forget" for a month to just be brought back to point A again!
If that makes sense?
I'm not a very confident person, although you wouldn't believe me if I told you that if you knew me but I just got good at faking confidence, so I'm definatly not ready for my mum to know atleast until I move out!(Only 3months away) and I feel like I'm betraying my girlfriend with these thoughts but I think I will put that aside and wait until I've talked to a professional atleast!
Thanks for taking the time to reply, Nikki x

Just reading Daily Stun - at my mother's! - and there is an article listing instances of unauthorised people accessing medical records for various purposes so basically it is fairly easy to do but any attempt to use any gained info would be a very serious matter.