so urm. i have been dating my gf for a while and shes really accepting  of me and everything.. and i have a strap on but its a cheap one.. what do yall recommend? i want a strap on where it fits closely to my skin and i can go hard or really fast in it .. sorry if this is to personal i am not experienced in this area. at all.

Have her pick it out.

i might suggest shopping online with her... if you feel uncomfortable with that you could narrow it down before you show her the options to lessen the decision time...

also, i might recommend the share... it's on babeland i believe... it's a "strapless strap-on" which means you don't need any unnecessary material

hopefully that helps

The general recommendation I have is you pick the harness, she picks the "dildo." You might want to opt for something smaller and more flexible (like the goodfella) so you can wear it around without looking like you have an erection.

Crap...I can't remember the name.

I tried on several harnesses at the store to see which felt the most comfortable.  I bought a cheap one first and realized I didn't like the leather pad thing that goes between me & the dildo. 

The one I purchased after using the cheap one for a while is a leather one...it's very comfortable and doesn't leave red marks.  I wear mine fairly tight and the back of the dildo rubs against me ... so it give me some simulation.

I recomend one that is barely there & leather.

As for dildo's, my partner likes the Vixen brands ... she likes that they look fairly realistic and feel fairly realistic. 

I never used a harness because I found that it felt better for me if I just put it in my underwear and stuck the shaft through the fly. I have the lonestar, but I suggest letting your girlfriend help pick it out if you feel comfortable. The only thing I don't like about the lone star is that the head is not big enough which causes it to slip out easily especially while going fast and/or hard.

I figure as I have some experiance on the recieveing end of these devises I'd chime in, and I would highly recomend vac-u-lock products. Get multiple toys. Gel dongs are nice but lack that realistic look. More realistic ones however are not as comfortable.
Avoid the feeldoe. The angle on this thing makes it pretty much only usefull for misionary.
I have heard the Share is a better strapless toy but  I have had no experiance with said toy.

Quote from: cynthialee on November 17, 2010, 11:39:54 AM
I figure as I have some experiance on the recieveing end of these devises I'd chime in, and I would highly recomend vac-u-lock products. Get multiple toys. Gel dongs are nice but lack that realistic look. More realistic ones however are not as comfortable.

Seconded.  I have vac-u-lock.  (Well, I am always the recipient but even so, my partner likes wearing it so I think it's a pretty good dildo)

As other people said, let her pick it out. Kind of a unique scenario if you think about it. I mean, plenty of bio guys buy dildos for their mates but they don't have the ability to change what's attached to them I've known some bio guy friends who were quite bummed with their gf's ended up liking the purchased unit better than the real thing LOL

I was just curious, I am guessing only the female gets pleasure out of this, right? (Sorry if I offended anyone in anyway).

Quote from: Josh T on November 17, 2010, 06:04:59 PM
I was just curious, I am guessing only the female gets pleasure out of this, right? (Sorry if I offended anyone in anyway).

if you are ok with being penetrated, you can use a feeldoe (or generic) it goes inside you and you will be penetrated while penetrating your partner

also, some strap ons are positioned in a way that it stimulates your dick/ clit so it feels good too, not as good as actually penetrating your partner unfortunately

Quote from: Rob on November 17, 2010, 10:46:03 AM

As for dildo's, my partner likes the Vixen brands ... she likes that they look fairly realistic and feel fairly realistic.

THIS!

I like spareparts joque for a harness...

yeah my gf says im her best and its better then the real thing.. which is kinda awkward i jusst want something better ill check out the  vac-u-lock products though

All those hanesses doesn't seems to be confortable  .-.
I'm thinking about buying Grrl strap-on harness, that looks more like a underwear with an o-ring to put the dildo.
But also i thought that the Spareparts Joque would be nice, too... Nygeel, are you ok with yours? Or do have something bad to say about it?  =o

And as everybody said here, let your partner choose the dildo  :3

Quote from: insideontheoutside on November 17, 2010, 01:35:13 PM
As other people said, let her pick it out. Kind of a unique scenario if you think about it. I mean, plenty of bio guys buy dildos for their mates but they don't have the ability to change what's attached to them I've known some bio guy friends who were quite bummed with their gf's ended up liking the purchased unit better than the real thing LOL

i enjoy the way you put that in, it makes me feel better  in a funny way

Has anyone here tried or heard of Lolajakes? I'm curious if they are worth the money

I got the Gal Pal strapless when it was on sale at Adam & Eve, it's served quite well. I'd suggest finding a store and making your purchase there, or finding some place that has guarantees, because while it's really good for the money it has a tendancy to crack at the 'joint'. But for an in-you-in-her strapon, it works REALLY well.

"in you in her" BEFORE bottom surgery? Not after right? This sounds like a stupid question but I wanted to make sure...

Oh yeah. Although in theory you could exercise some gymnastics and make it work after. That would be interesting to see.

Quote from: Logan1986 on January 04, 2011, 04:00:07 PM
Has anyone here tried or heard of Lolajakes? I'm curious if they are worth the money

I've had the lucas plus from LolaJakes almost 3 years now. I'm pretty pleased with it, and haven't had any complaints from the women I've been with.