I know there are a lot of topics on packers but there's so much information spread between so many websites and threads I get so confused!
My problem is I can't seem to find a packer that has the whole "package", the 3.5" packy (or mr. softie or something) is a good length, but the balls are to big, the mr. right has nice balls, but is to long/big, the lola jake packers are nice, but areexpensive and shiny (I've heard) and there's so many others! The GV soft pack, Bella packer, Pac-man (which I haven't seen any reviews of unfortunately), there's Homegrown packers, ftmprosthetics, like real and some more I'm sure.
They all seem to have different flaws so I don't know why they can't combine all the packers and have all the good traits in one!
So what I'm really asking is which is the best/which do you like most? What I want is for it to be semi-realilistic (no one will see it except me and maybe the outline when I'm changing in a locker room), less than $60 (or so), and to not make me look like I have an erection! I know this might sound stupid to some people, but I don't want people to notice that I'm packing. I want to pack because I feel self-concious about my lack of something down there (I seriously doubt ANYONE notices anything, but I notice).

P.S. For a harness I was just thinking a jock strap, but does anyone know where to buy one with a little pouch or something?

Personally I think the large balls of the small packy is a good idea. It gives good weight from what I hear. I've got a medium and can't wear it until I get a harness because it moves to much because it's too lightweight. Just search "ftm cock sock" there is a transguy who sells them for $10 plus shipping and according to the site he has a buy 2 get one free thing going on. Might be something of interest to you. I don't want to post the link (not sure I'm allowed) but it's gearguygear. 

personally i like babelands selection. realistic looking, not shiny, comfortable and reasonably low price

http://store.babeland.com/dildos-lifelike/soft-pack
if you get a chance to go to their store and check them out i definity would

You can always cut the balls down to size too though..

My 3.5 packy thing doesn't produce much of a bulge at all on my big ass frame, but it's there if you look for it.
I wear it more for my comfort than anything else.