So, I know that crossdressers alot of the time want to date really feminine women... what If someone that wasnt feminine dressing wanted to date you? They would still love to dress you up-- just not them.

I also have notaiced that many CD's are bottoms or submissives. As in, they dont want to be the sexual aggressor, they dont want to put "it" in someone else, but they want someone else to put "something" in them (be on the... er... "recieving end") . What if the other person pursued them, suduced them, and sometimes was the top but wanted to be the CD to be the Domminant (BDSM term) half the time?

I'm happily married so maybe I shouldn't have voted... 

Anyway I chose two answers:

-  Yes, I would because I like my partners to also genderbend. And Im okay with being on the top a lot of the time.
This is how we usually act - I'm definitely okay with it  since sex feels so good and I feel so close with my wife. And although my wife doesn't quite genderbend, she can be quite assertive, in a kind way (I rarely initiate...), so maybe this vote is close to how we enjoy interacting typically.

-  I want to almost always be the submissive and dont like being on top or the domme.
In private I sometimes enjoy fantasizing being female, what would it be like to be submissive, receiving, dominated. My wife isn't into playing that role for me so has never, but I play that movie in my mind when I'm playing alone.

Hope this begins to sort of answer your question. 

Great question.. But I feel it is a very grey area...
On the CD side, for years I have enjoyed (mostly sexually) the feel of lingerie, then 'discovered the sensuality/sexuality of wearing a now exes tight dresses and skirts.. Recently after a fair few years the memories started flooding back, and have since bought 2 skirts, some 4inch pumps, and various bits of lingerie.. (some yet to arrive).. Made myself some birdseed forms and toyed a bit with makeup.. Also looking at buying a nice long wavy red wig next week..
The last 2 weeks not a day has gone by when I havn't been home or come home from work and changed straight into fem clothing, ironically it has gone from 'sexually thrilling' to 'comfortable natural and sensual'...

On the GF side, months back I told my GF that I have worn lingerie in the past because the feeling of nylons and lace etc is so nice on the skin... She couldn't understand and wasn't comfortable with the idea...
She only ever wears jeans, trackies, simple tops.. Doesn't like wearing lingerie, hates heels, can't walk in them.. (though I did tell her she doesn't have to walk in them!! ;P ) Dresses and skirts, well in 3 years she's worn a skirt once...
Yes regardless I love her to bits, and yes she is the sexual submissive...
But I love the texture, shapes and feeling of feminine garments... If not on her then on me... (preferably both).. but thats something she can't get her head around.. (ironically she is bi)..

Has anyone successfully eased a partner into accepting their feminine side? or has experience shown thats it's always a yes or no situation?

Side issue to that, over the years she's improved my male dressing and fashion sense, how do I do the reverse without ruffling any feathers?! lol..

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My wife  is not uber feminine, but she's not masculine at all.  She wears skirts (and always with hosiery) heels jewelry etc.  I like her girly, and she enjoys my fem side.  We have fun with it.  For me its about self expression and the sensual feelings men aren't supposed to express ; a form of emulation.  She enjoys my silky legs, and seeing me in a skirt.  I didn't have to adapt her or get her to accept tthis, instead I shared everything early on in our relationship.  She understands that this is who I am, I won't  change and being able to express this side of me and enjoy feeling sexy makes me happy.

We take turns initiating and being the "top" so to speak.  I mentioned sensuality because this isn't a fetish, sometimes my dressing leads to intimacy but that's not the goal.  Though there have been times when she's bought me something or asked me to wear somethings specific and I know what's in store ;-)

Best advice I have is be as honest as early as you can... crossdressing is something your partner gets to enjoy with you, not endure.   If you feel that way and have that confidence about it, they will too.  My wife is proud of who I am and who she chose to spend her life with, and she knew about and experienced my dressing well before we were married.

Definately an expression of a softer side, my Yin...
For me, I'm not so sure it's about emulating.. Heck, I cry more during chick flicks and sad movies than my gf who laughs and tells me to toughen up! lol It's not an emulation thing, I just can't help it.. 

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