For those that know abit about me, my sister and I like to play MMORPG games.
My sister spoke about me with her friends on a game and I spoke with them and they didn't really seem to interested in getting to know me. After identifying myself as genderless, she spoke with few of the same people as before. She told the about me identifying myself as genderless. It seems like they took more of a liking to me than before and seem more open with me. I know more they find me interesting is because they might want to understand me, or maybe how they see me is different. Now if only people was like this IRL, would make being myself much more easy and alot easier to tell truth about myself.^^

So much truth,
my problem is finding the courage....


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I hate to be the one to bring the kool-aid to the party but it sounds like they aren't interested in you as a person but as an anomaly. The way I see it, if someone isn't interested in me as a person, that's honest. If they aren't interested in me but are interested in my "condition" (for lack of a better word), that's not honest. It kind of reminds me of a T-shirt I saw once:

"Prejudice is stupid. Especially when there are so many GOOD reasons to hate someone."

QuoteMy sister spoke about me with her friends on a game and I spoke with them and they didn't really seem to interested in getting to know me. After identifying myself as genderless, she spoke with few of the same people as before. She told the about me identifying myself as genderless. It seems like they took more of a liking to me than before and seem more open with me. I know more they find me interesting is because they might want to understand me, or maybe how they see me is different. Now if only people was like this IRL, would make being myself much more easy and alot easier to tell truth about myself.

Quotesounds like they aren't interested in you as a person but as an anomaly. The way I see it, if someone isn't interested in me as a person, that's honest. If they aren't interested in me but are interested in my "condition"

People are interested in interesting people. It might be the story teller (as long as new story), joke teller, the lying elaborator, the movie star, the adventurer, or social flutterbug. Or more commonly it might be something unique that you do that no one else does.

If getting noticed is what you want, and you may be craving it at the momment, rest assurd you will get the same response if you tell people in real life. Unfortunately from what I experienced it is more like how Casey says. In that its mainly because I am an anomaly, and the interest only lasts for a very short time (like 1 day). The people I have told, almost all of them, the day I told them was the last day that I talked about it. There have been a few that I could talk about it a few more times. But only two at work. Those are the real people that are interested in me as a person.

         Its not they are interested in me due to reason as why I am myself, they been very nice not to ask questions about it. Its been with most they didn't really see me as just another "male" they saw me as someone they could talk more comfortably almost like another "female", the few that do know about me have been very supportive. I choose to stay away from those people that ask questions and make it seem like I have a "issue", "condition" or whatever they want to call it.

This irritates the crap out of me. I recognize that most people are probably going to just go "Oh thats nice" and never bring it up again. When I tell someone, I want them to be interested and really care but I find most people react in more of the "I will tolerate you but I don't have to like you" sort of way. Tolerance is adequete, Acceptence is better, Embrace is ideal.

Marq and Mia

Yes there were 3 girls that I think feel the way you mention Shinobu. They treat me more feminine then before which helps that part of me.

Having said what I said above, I would not take back even telling the ones that dont talk about me now. There is something very real , emotional, psychological, social, and physiological that happened when I told them that seemed to be lifted off of my soul. Just telling did a whole lot of good to me in itself. And in itself, that was and is priceless to me.

In addition, after I told the few is when I felt more comfortable trying a few new things I had never done.  And then getting a few great comments whispered to me.

And the two that do talk to me now about it are actually that way unexpected. I had not expected that they would be the only two to talk to me.

One girl talked to me a while and was really nice, then it all sorta fizzled our really fast when she got a boyfriend.

In all, just telling was a great experience in itself, and made any bad or unexpected result very much worth it.

Quote from: Marq and Mia on January 09, 2007, 02:51:17 AMTolerance is adequete, Acceptence is better, Embrace is ideal.

To me, tolerance is respect. I respect you, you respect me, we each do what we each do. Acceptance and embrace are great but I respect people who are willing to respect others. That's what makes the world work.

Tolerance is not always respect.
I tolerate people who drink till they're stupid. I don't respect them at all though.

Respect for me is a little more difficult to earn.

M&M

QuoteRespect is a psychological construct concerning the relationships between people. Depending on the culture being studied, respect will consist of different meanings. American culture defines respect on the basis of reciprocity, whereas Japanese culture defines respect as the act of being humble. The cognitive aspects of respect are still under current study. Due to the fact that respect is defined as a psychological construct further studies must be carried out to determine the affective, cognitive and emotional componets of this construct. Respect is not simply an attitude based on experiences. Furthermore there is no evidence that respect exist in relationships outside of humans. The concept of respect predates, and does not rely on, the existence of the concept of rights.

Respect is sometimes loosely used as a synonym for politeness or manners, though these are behaviors showing respect. Even though respect is an attitude respect will consist of cultural specfic behaviors. Intercultural differences in behaviours, self-perception and outward appearance may result in the unintentional appearance of disrespect.

Respect can refer to the objective, unbiased consideration and regard for rights, values, beliefs and property. Kant's categorical imperative, as well as expressing a common understanding of civilization, incorporates the concept of respect. Many movements have at different times claimed respect as their core value.

The levels of respect that people show to each other can vary from showing no respect (which may constitute abuse in some circumstances) to showing great respect. Many cultures have institutions that ritualise respect, as with a constitutional monarchy. Some believe that only through showing an "appropriate" level of respect in all circumstances (regardless of whether or not the respecter feels that the potential respectee has earned respect) can one achieve self-respect, which allows one to become dignified. The problem of discerning appropriate levels of respect is a learned socialisation skill, that depends on cultural factors.

Differences in culture, as well as in perceptions of self and of outward appearances, can result in a person unintentionally showing behaviour which others may (mis-)interpret as disrespect.

The early usage of the term was in regard to position or class, and became obsolete with the rise of democracy, which instead gave respect to personal qualities or achievement. The meaning of the word has shifted back toward an honor that is automatic rather than earned.

According to the wikipedia, the word has shifted back towards an honor that is automatic rather than earned. I think there is two definitions. One is a societal/cultural respect (given to all freely). And another is a personal relationship respect (earned). Each to me is different.

Back to the in game Shinobu

Quotethey saw me as someone they could talk more comfortably almost like another "female", the few that do know about me have been very supportive. I choose to stay away from those people that ask questions and make it seem like I have a "issue", "condition" or whatever they want to call it.

This is great for you if they really are supportive. Hopefully it does also translate into personal RL. Maybe you have a great personality inside also, that has been blocked by hiding in the past. So maybe this is a good sign of things to come.

Thats really good to know~^^;;;
Just hope people are IRL are just as friendly and understanding as ones I know online. =/