Well, the woman who popped me out of the womb has gone to far. I won't call her mom. She doesn't deserve that title. I've been out as trans since 2003. I have been out as "liking girls" since I was 16, so 14 years ago. This is not new. This woman is just psycho.

She has resorted to going on my girlfriend's/partner's family tree at ancestry.com and posting my birth name all over the pictures of me and posting I'm not really Dominick. Our tree clearly lists my birth name under the AKA slot and my court ordered document is a part of my ancestry file so it is abundantly clear who I am to those who are researching the family tree. I feel that was "nice" of me to include such information, not that I have to release anything to anyone.

Ash (my gf) ended up blocking her. I have told this woman to leave me alone many times. She continues to pull this BS over and over, trying to get attention, sympathy from others and play the victim as I am the evil "daughter" who abandoned her family. I am considering going to my lawyer this week, since harassment over a telecommunication device is against the law here in Ohio.

I am just wondering if anyone else has ever been in a similar situation or has taken out a restraining order against a relative?

Feel for you. It must be really frustrating. She really needs to grow up though.

Do you really think legal action will help? It might just give her another axe to grind.

It's so sad how some people go so far out of their way to hurt someone else. 

Geez I am sooooo sick of stupid hurtful people. That is way over the top and you have a right to be angry and hurt. That is a terrible thing to do to anybody but your own child? Really? Wasn't rejection hurtful enough? As Spacial said, "She really needs to grow up though."

We are so sorry. We have great big hugs for you. We are sorry that happened. Wish we could change it for you.

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Roxy & Patty

I think it depends on where you live. Some places make it easier to get and enforce a restraining order against a harrassing or abusive person. Other places won't grant it unless that person has been written up in police reports and sometimes even arrested/charged with a crime of a certain nature.

I know someone who was NOT able to get a restraining order against a harrassing ex, but that wasn't in Ohio. Your lawyer should have a good idea if this is something that you can take care of.

Another tactic you might want to try is to contact the web host directly for the place(s) that she is posting information about you. They are obligated not to host or allow users who violate the terms of service, which include not breaking telecommunications law regarding invasion of privacy or harrassment. They are the ones who are responsible for removing offending information and suspending the IPs of people who break the law, and if they don't reply in a reasonable time to your requests and take measures to protect your safety and privacy, then they themselves can be sued. So they will WANT to work with you and cooperate.

That's some crazy stuff man... Your own mom (aka "that woman" lol) ? harsh... Sorry dude, I know that must hurt...

That's pretty awful...um, yeah, if she keeps harassing you, and it's criminal where you live, charge her and sue her for damages also, if you can.

Go for both. She picked this fight.

She doesn't have anything I want sue wise!

Thanks so much for the advice and understanding everyone. This is an ongoing issue we've had. She once told me I wasn't transgendered because I wasn't like the people on "Montel" if that tells you anything about her character.

I just really want her to leave me alone, but sadly, I am afraid that will not happen until she is dead. I feel horrible saying that, but it is true. She tries to find any way she can to come back into my life and start trouble. It has got to stop.

She will be so embarrassed if I press charges or get a restraining order. I am hoping it will be the move that will finally ensure she leaves me alone.

That's awful!

I can't help but, hey just take pride in being the bigger person. I'm sorry you have to deal with such nonsense. Don't let it get to you though.