insideontheouside's suggestion may appear trite, but is incredably effective.
How other precieve you is a matter for them. You live, develop and become the person you are.
When you have more independance, you can beging some physical transformations, of course. These will be all the easier because you will already know yourself.
Incidently, I am a woman. All woman. My body is the way it is, but that is not my fault and I don't apologise for it.