I used to be very close to my Mom but we had a hard time through high school.  My step father was abusive and she didn't help.  My GID kept me from getting too close to anyone.   Last year they divorced.

I wrote her a coming out letter yesterday.  I am anti-letter and have told most people in person but didn't have the guts to call my Mom.  Today has been a hard day as she hasn't responded to the email or answered her phone.  I don't know what's going on..maybe she went out of town for the day. 

I want to reconnect with and love and feel love from my Mom again.  We'll see.

Limbo.

I love my mom, I do, but she can be a bit much sometimes. She's a very lovey person and I like my personal space so she gets offended if I don't feel like hugging her. I don't know why but I've never been very big on letter her into my space. I want to, but something stops me inside.

I'm afraid she'll aways see me as her daughter. She doesn't like that I still wear men's clothes and she's always wanting me to wear dresses and girly things. I told her those things make me very uncomfortable so she stopped pushing as much. She does comment and I hear "pull up your pants, you're not a boy" very often. I don't like it.

I'm very close with my dad though but that is becoming off topic.

Ugh, that old bat is close minded and stuck in the past, she'll certainly freak out when she finds out about me. Hopefully she'll get over it, but she's a very stubborn woman. All my other relatives are in Thailand, so, she'll be the only family I'll have here.

I'm a momma's boy. My mom is my world to be honest. Before I came out to her I would have not transitioned if it would have meant loosing her if that says anything. She's my best friend and my protector. Thankfully she is because my dad really doesn't exist in my life even when he was still living with me.

My mother is very important to me, and I love her very much.  However, she and I have a very hard time understanding each other.  We think on different wavelengths and have different perspectives on life, which can create issues, but we generally get along.  Still, she's not the first person I would choose to discuss my life with.

My mom and I have a good relationship. She just did my T shot an hour ago She came out for me to all of her friends (We live in a neighborhood that resembles the Real Housewives of... series.) which meant possibly losing her friends, so that she could start using male pronouns full time. Even growing up, with all my social anxiety issues and dropping out of school every year until 8th grade, she went against everyone, even her husband and her parents, to do what she felt was right for me, which was therapists and homeschooling and medication.

My Mom homeschooled me for about six years, so we spent a lot of time together.  Living with my emotionally abusive sister and Dad was tough on both of us, and we seemed to be the only people who understood each other.  Being homeschooled also meant I didn't have a lot of friends growing up.  My Mom was the only friend I had during my childhood, pretty much.  So, several factors came together and resulted in us being very close.  We still get along great, although I won't be seeing her again until my birthday in June.  I feel like she knows and understands me better than almost anyone else, and she feels the same about me.
I must say, I am extremely proud of her right now.  She has allowed people to control and abuse her for her entire life, and finally stood up and said "no more."  She is experiencing ultimate freedom right now and I couldn't be happier for her.

Well lets see...in terms of character, incredibly close, but emotionally close...no not really. My mother has always had a certain aloofness in her character and as time has progressed we have drifted further and further apart...I used to worry that transitioning would mean i'd loose my familly, but then i realised that in a way, i already had. They brought me up to be independent and strong minded and it worked...i wonder sometimes if they regret how succesful they were.

I was never really close to her. I'm not sure she gets close to anybody. I think she lives in fear of having close relationships...fear of giving up a part of herself, that way.

Mind you, we used to talk shop all the time. She's the Head of Technology at the school district in her area and I used to work there as well ...... but we never had heart to heart talks. =(

I'm very close with my mother, I feel as though she is my best emotional support for everything, though it's not the perfect relationship because I feel like I get on her nerves at times because I can be a bit wanting of affection, like I will tell her I love her and miss her very often (since I don't really have any friends in person, most of my online contacts are 'aquantences', where they are kind of your friend but not really.)

My father on the other hand, for some reason I get the feeling he doesn't like me very much, he is very insensitive to me and my feelings, he NEVER thinks before he speaks and is very hesitant to apologize to me when he has offended me. Then he gets defensive and claims he's 'not perfect'. He treats me like I'm just some random person living in the same house as him. Combine all that with extreme bi-polar tendencies, possible aspergers, and a bad temper and you don't have that nice of a father. Infact my half-brother (father's son and another woman's before he married my mother) commited suicide a few years ago, and my father said that he would have done anything to help prevent it, but I tell him that I feel suicidal sometimes too (when my psychiatric medicine runs out of my system and I get very depressed) and he doesn't really care, I try to tell him how upset he makes me but he just seems to ignore me.

Sorry about talking about my mother and father, since this seems to be the 'mom' thread, but I just wanted to voice that. 

Laruza.

One of the most important things I learnt is that no-one has to like anyone. Sometimes, a parent, a family member, anyone, just doesn't like us and frequntly, we don't like them.

But it's never a reflection on you, me or anyone else. It's just chemistry.

@ spacial: Perfectly said.

I love my mom to death. Granted, we are not extremely close. I prefer not to discuss my personal life with her, but I'm not really the sharing type. She is sweet, caring, and one of the most understanding people I know. She creates the very definition of "Unconditional Love". She found out that I dated both women and men, and didn't bat an eyelash. I have a feeling she is even at least getting some hints regarding my ->-bleeped-<-. Nothing about who I am seems to disappoint her, and I love her for it.

Unfortunately not very close.  I think the only time I've ever seen the real person she is, was when she was separated from my dad for 6 months.  I would have liked to have gotten to know that person.
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While she's nice and kind and I care about her a great deal...when living with my dad, she's completely under his thumb....and it's hard to tell where he ends and she begins.  I avoid my dad whenever humanly possible (even on the few occasions I do visit each year).   While I don't avoid my mom actively in the same way...because she gives up all sense of self when with him, I have to avoid telling her even the most mundane things, else deal with my dad's BS.  I suppose I consider my parents to be a lost cause.  Like Helena, I lost them long ago.  Coming out to them this year certainly won't improve matters between us.
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I guess I've found that in the absence of healthy family relationships,
that it's better to focus on the people around you.  Those that know you
for who you are, and truly care about you.  Close friends that are there
for you, and you for them.  To me, that's my real family.  The one that matters.

I love my mom, but I don't like her.  Few people do.  She is trying, so I'm trying to be a bigger person and facilitate the relationship.  But that's mostly because she's still my mom and I love her, and it's just so damn sad to see a worn out, lost, lonely 61 year old women with no resources.  I really do feel for her, but she hurt me a lot, and I'm still healing from it.  She didn't mean to hurt me, but she let her own pain and fear guide her actions, so she did.  Without being a drug addict, sexually abusing me, or putting me around people who would do those things around/to me, she really couldn't have ->-bleeped-<-ed up more, which is sad to say (though am really grateful that she didn't also do those things- lots of kids have far worse mothers I know.) 

Maybe later she'll pull her head out of her ass, and stop playing the victim every moment.  Maybe then we could be close.  I can hope.

My mother and I were never very close but she has long since passed on, before I finally transitioned.

She knew about my gender issues and tried to ignore them. My father was more understanding.

Caroline

In the last week my mom said she can't do crosswords anymore. I wonder what that menas. Is she getting tired of living? What are the next steps to most at 88 who just can't use their minds anymore. She does love kitty cat and plays with a string and a stick with kitty but she seems to have given up on any real thinking stuff. I know i will surely be alone when she passes. 

I am very close to my mom, and she is supportive of my transition.

My mom is like my best friend, she tells me about her problems, and I tell her mine, I call her at least once a day.

I would be closer to my dad, but he lives in texas and I dont see him much anymore

I have noticed that I have become closer to my mom sence moving out and going to college, I think I have become more mature and her and I are less of child/mother and more of adult friends

she told me to do one......
going flip reverse and contrdictig .
i will live without her in my life now for ever.
my brothers and sisters are fine.
she has lost the title of mum and now miss .