I cant stop stop hyperventalating...not ok....

over txt messages, I wasnt ready for this...please help

I'm so sorry that happened.

Try to take deep breaths and do something calming for yourself.

Many hugs.

Well ... any break-up is awful and it hurts at any time in any circumstances, so you have my total sympathy and big hug. But one of the things we have to accept, however hard it may be, is that most heterosexual women want a 'normal' heterosexual man who is absolutely 100% certain of his own masculinity. When we tell them the truth about ourselves, it can often (not always, but often) disturb them, upset them and makes them feel short-changed. That, I'm afraid, is just part of the deal that comes with dysphoria. Totally sucks, I know, but it's not her fault if that's how she feels. It's just life.

But I know that doesn't make it hurt any less ... so have another big hug ... I feel for you, I really do ...

I am sorry that you have to face this. Unfortunately it is somewhat inevitable with people like us because unless our partners are exceptionally flexible in their attractions they find that we are intent on changing many of the things that attracted them in the first place.

Please don't worry though, most of us do eventually find a longterm partner so you won't be alone forever. Meanwhile try to be brave and realise that though it is painful it is probably better for it to happen now than in ten years time when you have children, and are going though a nervous breakdown because of your suppressed trans nature.

Jenny's right. But I will add that it's somthing everyone has to face now and again.

It can be the issue is transgender, or so many other things. I'm really sorry to have to say, It's life. It happens. It hurts like hell. But you and the rest of us, get over it, eventually.

What Jenny and Spacial said. It is very tough, but now you can make a fresh start of it. Better now than 15 years later and a kid is in the middle of it. Believe me, you don't want that additional pain.

I'm sorry things didn't work out, Eve.  But just look at this as a clean slate.  Now you can focus on your own issues.  When you figure yourself out, then you can find someone who is right for you 

Eve.  it might not be all her.  If I remember right was there not a problem with her Mom?  It could be Mom.

But when we decide it is time to be true to ourselves, we all face the possibility of loss.

2 Ways to view it:

1. I have been set free, but what am I to do with out her.

2. I have been set free, now I can be the real me.

Sister, I am sorry you had to face this, but it could be a plus.

I've just broke up with my girl friend of 4 years, and it was hard. I still love her, but the difference i suppose is that it was my choice. I wanted a fresh clean slate to start my life from, and even though I miss her I'm so glad that there are no children complicating things, and there was nearly children, hell there was going to be rings a few months ago but i postponed it!! See it as a chance to reassess your life and make a fresh start. I have no doubt that you are heart broken, but take it as a chance to find someone who will be there and love you for been a girl.

by text...ouch that's cold

Hugs...it does get better tho hun...promise.

 I know this may seem to be the end of the world, but it isn't.
I am truly sorry for the pain that you are going through....
Please know that by the responses here, that many
people care for you.
With Many Hugs,
Suzi S.

I'm so sorry =(

I know nothing any of us can say will take away the pain but just know that we are here for you

*hugs*

hugs 

Breakup by text? Wow, she doesn't deserve you. That wasn't classy at all.