As a kid, I was never close to my mum, but I was always over-protective of her (even if I was a kid and completely useless). Even though, we don't have much in common, I feel closer to her. She can be a bit annoying and weird, but I was really shocked about how supportive of me she is. It's wonderful.

Very close. She's just the greatest!

Very close, always have been. She's the only reason I lived through catholic school.

Throughout my childhood and teenage years, she was the closest person to me, the one I could always talk to and let down my walls partially.  She's a very caring and empathetic person.  For some reason, when I transitioned she thought she was losing the child she had and getting a 'replacement'.  I tried to convince I've always been the same person, but she just just refused to hear it.  These days, whenever I'm around she acts like I'm just some random acquaintance and acts politely neutral, until I try to speak to her as my mother like I did in the past.  Apparently this similarity between myself and... myself... is"disrespecting the memory of her son."  She literally feels that the child she had died and I'm some sort of personality that came to exist recently.  Oddly, she's not too homophobic or transphobic when it comes to others, she just cannot make the connection between who I am and who I was. 

In other words, she's grieving an imaginary person, which is just a little confusing for me since *I* don't remember being another person.  Sigh... wonderful, huh?  It's such a silly view I'm tempted to just laugh about it, except it cost me having a mother. 

Why can't people see the same person despite gender?  I mean, she has to know subconsciously that her view is pretty unrealistic.

I'm really close to my mum but i'm not sure that's a good thing. My mum does what she can to keep me close, she's always discouraged me from doing anything that would make me independant. She discouraged me from going out with mates, getting a job, learning life skills like cooking etc I resent her for it, don't think she knows that though. Still I love her and apart from her keeping me too close we do have a decent relationship.

Yah!! Great news and so happy for you Dee_Pntx

Congrats Dee!

Quote from: Dee_pntx on February 19, 2011, 05:57:22 AM
"How close are you to your Mom? "

Oh, about three feet. 

She's in the front seat of the car riding next to my dad, I'm in the back seat and we are on the way to San Mateo for my SRS on Tuesday.
So I would say about three feet..

I'd say that's pretty darn close. Congrats Dee!

I was fairly close to mom. She raised 4 of us alone and she had enough love for us all. I did come out to her in the late '70s. She loved me just the same. She's been gone 20 years now. Luv you, Mom!
Joelene.

My mom just asked me "should we get a sex change for you? you act more like a guy then a girl." How should I have reacted to that? 

I'm very close to my mother. She is awesome people!

I truly believe she's a sociopath. She got full custody of me when I was 5 and I moved away from her as soon as I was able to at 18, in those 13 years we never struck up a relationship. I cut off all contact with her a little earlier than the rest of my family, I just couldn't deal with her without extreme stress and I feel guilty about it - knowing that as she has reached retirement age she has almost no friends and no partner - but I still just can't deal with her.

Nope.... my relationship with my Ma has/is always been v.difficult, prickly and just not a workable reality...

I was a true 'Daddy's' girl.... but he's no longer around, he died sadly almost a decade ago now.... and i will always miss him dreadfully.... 

Quote from: Brent123 on February 20, 2011, 03:57:06 PM
My mom just asked me "should we get a sex change for you? you act more like a guy then a girl." How should I have reacted to that? 

Bit late now, but you might have said YES!

There is no relationship between me and my mother.  At all.  And there ever will be one.  I consider her to be pure evil.  We haven't spoken in 2 years now since I left home.  and I never plan on speaking to her for the rest of my life.  and I don't feel guilty about it.

I'm sorry to hear that John. Everyone should have loving parents, I think.
I'm not close to my mother, although I suspect she doesn't know that. I just don't like how she reacts to things so I don't share much with her.

Sooner or later I will have to "talk" to her though...

I talk to my mom bout once a month sometimes more but usually i keep my distance. i love the woman But she is such a pain. I havent told her im transitioning yet but i have the letter ready Im waiting for after my birthday. the thing is we have had so many problems in the past its gonna be a while before its all better. however not living in her house really makes it easy. she was for the most part a single parent and raised me and my brothers. but she pretty much had a open door policy with her boyfriends. she would openly tell us not to tell Guy A about Guy B and never mention Guy C to guy A&B. It was horrible trying to keep up with her. I raised my brothers for the most part i was to keep them in line but never be their parent. my brother once called me mom and she jumped through the roof. She also has been trying to demolish my relationship with my girlfriend since it started. she has gotten better over the last 2 years tho. I started telling her what I was going to do for holidays and birthdays and what not and she doesnt try to control me as much. she is even paying for me to get my insurance sales agent licence and when i passed my first course she said she was proud of me. that is somthing that she hasnt said since I was in middle school and i made the best GPA jump in the school. Im 22 now and hopefully in another year or two we wil start to clear the air a bit more.

I am quite close to my mom. she is my only family in town. she has been thru a lot with my dealing with depression and such. I think my biggest fear now is coming out to her.

I've actually become closer to all my family members who know I'm trans and transitioning. My entire family doesn't know yet but the most important ones do.

It's completely opposite from what I excepted- I expected to lose everyone. I have lost some people but no blood relatives (yet anyway). My transition has actually brought the family a little closer together. I am blessed about that.

I got closer to my mum after I came out to her. Now i can confide in her about my feelings, not just about transition. It wasn't like that before.