So I've recently decided to finally get started and see a therapist on HRT.  Seeing as how the therapist will take a portion of the section telling me how I should come out to people, I went ahead and told everyone that i should.  My girlfriend knew a few weeks back and was supportive, but wasn;t sure if she would stay with me.  Since then she has warmed up to the idea and decided she would stay with me.  None of my friends seemed to care at all, them also having their own interesting past... and even a few of them being ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s they found no problem.  My mother however was a different story...

She thinks its not GID and I have some kind of hormonal balance.  Then went on to preach to me about how my decision affects the family and their image ( the family I see once a year at christmas mind you), and wants me to go to a therapy for years before I make a decision.  She also thinks transexuals are hunted down for sport and told me and I quote * Transgendered is the same thing as saying transexuals they kill those kinds of people. They are going to find you. * wtf right?  I told her that wasn't going to happen and she more or less hinted that I would be getting kicked out.  Right now I mainly live with my girlfriend so I could stay with her but shes leaving the country at the end of this year to go get her masters in england so untill she returns id be on my own.  Not really sure what to do.. the whole concept of all of this is quite upsetting.

I hope everyone elses is going better than mine did.   

Terra

- Update -

She now informs me I need to go the doctor so they can pump more man into me.  Also that if a guy hits on me, he'll somehow see me penis and try to knife me. ( even though I told her i'm stay with my gf ).

Interesting.

*hugs* to you Terra just stay strong. Congrats on having the courage to come out. I've noticed that in everyone's stories there is always at least one person who stays by their side and I hope the same will happen for you. Good luck with it all!

  Of all my family and friends, my Mom has been the most difficult. Even now, after living full time for almost 2 years, we're STILL at odds over my decision to make such a drastic change in my life.

  It's important to realize that most of your family will probably view your transition as a horrible tragedy. In their minds, it's like throwing away a perfectly good pair of shoes just because a new pair might appear more attractive. They also see it as really that simple... that you can simply "fight" your "urges" to live as a woman. They'll link what you're doing to your sexuality and suggest that you just need to "man up" and try being more masculine to cure yourself. I'm sorry to say it but you lose all credibility with family when you come out as Trans... According to them, you've lost your common sense and anything you say is suspect.

  I think that my most valuable defense was information that came from outside the situation. I bought my Mom a book that helped lots... "True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism: For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals" by Mildred Brown became a useful tool. You can get it for under $10 at Amazon. The notion if transsexuality is frightening to many people... Try to stick to the facts when talking to her about it and avoid reacting to her negativity. She's reacting the way she is because she loves you and doesn't want bad things to happen to you.. that's just what a Mom does. After things calm down, consider inviting your Mom to see your therapist with you. Sometimes it takes a person sitting behind a desk with certificates on the wall to "prove" that what you're experiencing is real.

   Good luck.... Try to be patient and give it time...  LOL.. My Mom knocked on my door just now and asked what I was up to.... I told her that I was trying to offer advice to another woman having issues with her mom.... She just shook her head and went back downstairs  I love her dearly but I know that she'll never really get it... but I know that she loves me.

Tell her that she is right and that it is a hormone imbalance and that you're seeking help.

Go on HRT.  Tell her you're feeling better now that they're balancing your hormones.

LoL I regret to say even that would be too complicated for her to get.  She thinks they can just keep pumping me full of testosterone till I'm manly.

Quote from: Terra I.D on February 28, 2011, 12:12:25 AM
LoL I regret to say even that would be too complicated for her to get.  She thinks they can just keep pumping me full of testosterone till I'm manly.

she's wrong, wrong, and wrong. a mtf transsexual taking those shots is just going to increase dysphoria. my mom considered it at first. i had 40 ng/dl of testosterone when i was 13. i was told that that's "abnormally low." fast forward all the way to the end, and this one endocrinologist tried convincing me that taking these shots would "cure" me. i wasn't stupid, and i knew i didn't want to take that. i refused. i was very insulted by that, and my mom insultedme for considering it. she knows now that i was right.

also, the stupid binarist thinking in the society is a problem. thinking that if you are born with a penis, you should live up to the qualifications of a male in the society you live in, and if you're born with a vulva, you should live up to the qualifications for a female in the society you live in, but would be permitted to have some masculinity. of course, lots of parents are going to tell you you can be anything you want to be when you grow up. anything that's not a transsexual.

Under no circumstances can they force you into taking that poison into your body.  My advise, if you can, is to run as far away from her as you can.

lol I'm 21, I'm not going to get forced into taking anything ;3