So, a couple of weeks ago, I swore to myself that I would come out on March 3rd, because I have therapy that day. Well, that day is tomorrow and I'm really nervous.

My friend tried calming me down, but it isn't helping.

I'm not worried about how to say what I want to say to my mom, but I'm worried about how she'll react.

I have a habit of bringing up transgender topics when talking to her, I used to talk about it a lot to get her used to the idea, but today I mentioned that this guy that my friend is secretly in love with is transgender and so is my friend's "wife" (her "wife" is genderqueer or something. I don't remember. I put wife in quotations because they're not really married.) and so she assumed my friend is a ->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-, which isn't true at all.

She's pansexual (despite the fact that pansexuals kind of bother me because they make me feel like I'm being "othered", you know?) and hates when people discriminate against LGBT people. She has LGBT friends and will defend them. She loves someone regardless of gender. What's so difficult to understand about that?

Anyway, I'm really nervous and need to calm down. I don't know if I really have a question or anything, I'm just extremely nervous and feel the need to type this all out.

Do you have any reason to be nervous that she won't accept you, or is it just the jitters (not discounting the jitters, I'm hugely paranoid and know exactly how real they feel)?

Quote from: Serra on March 02, 2011, 07:16:18 PM
Do you have any reason to be nervous that she won't accept you, or is it just the jitters (not discounting the jitters, I'm hugely paranoid and know exactly how real they feel)?

Mostly, yes. She told me today that she thinks my generation is "too accepting" of transgender people or something like that. I didn't really understand what she said, but that's what it sounded like. And she thinks transgender people are freaks. She has said, though, that she would accept someone depending on who they are, but she said she would never want a transgender kid. :I

Quote from: Devyn on March 02, 2011, 07:51:06 PM
Mostly, yes. She told me today that she thinks my generation is "too accepting" of transgender people or something like that. I didn't really understand what she said, but that's what it sounded like. And she thinks transgender people are freaks. She has said, though, that she would accept someone depending on who they are, but she said she would never want a transgender kid. :I

Yeah, that's...a pretty decent reason to be nervous.  >_>  But you never know, people might surprise you.  She might say that now, but opinions can change when the situation shifts from hypothetical to right in their face.