When I first started questioning, I was sure that I would never really insist on proper female pronouns.

     Especially while pre-HRT, before my full time transition, but as I move farther and farther along my path, the more I am annoyed by being called he, him, dude, man, ect...

     I never thought that it would get to me; it has.

     Anyone else feel this way towards the end of Pre-transition?

Yep and still do. There is a lad at work who calls everyone including lads, love and sweetie etc. I like talking to him as he talks to everyone in a feminine way and I'm sure the lads at work get annoyed, but I love it!   

My best mate when I came out to him immediatly started using female pronouns with me, but I've felt that I need him to hold off, at least till the rest of the world catches up. I don't want him to drop one in an inapproriate place, well that was the thought at the time. At the moment I'm starting to care less at what people thing as Rachel starts to take over, and I am becoming so much bolder, I never thought it would happen so soon but I am itching to tell everyone else who I really am! Then the correct pronouns can really happen!

My close friends always ask what I prefer, so I tell them that I prefer her and she, but it is way too confusing to explain to others/appropriate settings.

Plus, I think its weird to be called she when I'm using my male voice. I think I will make the switch in my personal life soon though.

Changing pronouns is part of transition so I wouldn't describe it as "pre-transition." I've always wanted to be referred to by gender neutral pronouns or male pronouns but never really got my way. Even now while I am transitioning through hormones I still don't get male pronouns. It's very frustrating but I can't do much about it.

I didn't use to care about pronouns at all, but more and more I'm finding it really annoys me... I still can't ask anyone to call me by male pronouns though. I wish my language didn't make that distinction so often!

My best friend has been absolutely amazing about calling me Nick and he/him/his. Unfortunately, no one else has picked up on it. Oddly enough though, I'm actually finding it harder to respond when someone calls me she, not out of any conscious ignoring it just kind of happens. I hear "she" and it's like my mind goes "Well, they can't be talking about me".
Which is weird because while most of my family knows, they still don't call me the right stuff. It doesn't actually bother me as much with them, they know who I am and they're cool with it. I get really pissed off if I'm in public though, especially at one friend of mine in particular that seems to think it's hilarious to call me a lesbian or even worse, spit out my legal name.

It's a process....

  When I first came out I wasn't insistent but as time went on I became quite intolerant of the pronoun issue.
 
   What I found is that the ones who "get it" have no problem switching to the new pronouns. The ones who WON'T get it will get it wrong all the time; They'll say that they just forget and that you shouldn't be so sensitive about it. I truly believe that it's a credibility thing... They're older and you're a younger person with issues... they'll use correct pronouns when it's convenient for their version of reality.

  I have to confess that I go vertical when I'm referred to as anything other than she or her. It makes me angry because it's only the older people that knew me before transition that do it. I just don't tolerate it.

Hi Karii

I had the same thing, it was annoying when they didn't call me she, her.
In the beginning I correct people, saying that it was changed and If they would be so kind to remember that.
Later I was a bit less friendly by asking if there was something wrong with their eyes, coz I looked like a woman, I  talked like a woman and I was behavouring like a woman, the least thing they could do was treathing me like a woman.

Most people I knew get used and were using the right pronoms.
People who were persisting in the wrong pronoms had to leave out of my life. I avoided them.
Most of them came back with the right pronoms.
But like Jessica said, it's a process, people are knowing you by many years and while you were making plans for transition they know nothing.
On a certain moment you came out, for you it's a fact now, but, they need a little time to get used to the new situation.

A good conversation with them, by telling them how it's hurting you by using the wrong pronoms can help.
Because it's hurting, and you're in a quite vulnerable stage, so they can have some compassion with you.


I hope things will come out good for you.

hugs
annette

Quote from: Karii Cloud on March 07, 2011, 06:21:50 PM
     When I first started questioning, I was sure that I would never really insist on proper female pronouns.

     Especially while pre-HRT, before my full time transition, but as I move farther and farther along my path, the more I am annoyed by being called he, him, dude, man, ect...

     I never thought that it would get to me; it has.

     Anyone else feel this way towards the end of Pre-transition?

Yes. I'm the type of person that's very tolerant. Nothing anyone could say to me verbally bugs me. Ever. Well as time has gone by, it seems to be getting to me little by little. It's generally with family and friends because they are used to using my male name, he, him, his, etc.