I am a gay male bear who has a strong attraction to f2m bear types.  I prefer bear types who still have a vagina.  I'm not sure I'm posting in the right area; I'm new here.  And I hope no one takes offense in any way.  No offense is intended.  I've just always been attracted to manly men like myself, but also attracted to vagina.  I am clueless as to where to meet f2m bears.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.  For the record, I've once dated one, and it was amazing while it lasted.  Ideally, I'd like a lifemate, a family, etc.  I am financially secure, emotionally mature, and attractive... as well as d/d free, a non-smoker, and social drinker.  Hope to hear from you.

Unfortunately most of us don't refer to our bodies like that. I think craigslist is the only way to find one and know for sure but there's no way to really tell if a person is or isn't. Transgender bears are just like any other guy. I did see that there's a new flag for trans people but I don't think that too many people use that code.

First, thanks for your response.  I'm confused though.  I'm not sure about what code you are referring to?

Also, if I may ask, and again, please don't take offense...  are there many f2m transexuals who have transitioned into gay men? 

Also, again... any ideas as to where to meet a f2m would be appreciated.

Most FTMs don't like to emphasize their downstairs situation.

I see stuff on craigslist sometimes...if you go to the craigslist for your area, in the search bar on the left change it to personals, and search "ftm."

I do appreciate your delicacy and respect in your request MB.  It is appreciated.  And you are most welcome to stay and participate in the conversations.

However Susan's is not a dating site, so you probably will not find what you are looking for here.

Gender identity and sexual orientation are two separate issues.  And our attraction to others is mostly, though not always, the same regardless of our internal or expressed gender.

Saying, that if a trans man is attracted to males, they will continue to be attracted to males regardless of their transition status.

And, while I do not presume to speak for trans men, most are uncomfortable talking about things below their waist.

-Sandy

As said before, this is not a dating site. It is a support site.

As noted, there is Craigslist.

Other than that, remember: gay FTMs are GAY MEN.

You will find gay men that also happen to be FTM - and some of whom would be bears - to date or connect with in exactly the same places that you will find all other gay men: on the same websites and the same bars, clubs, and in person meeting spaces. Some will disclose their trans status earlier, others may not.

And while this is just my personal opinion, I get the sense that while some men who are both gay and trans are more open to sexual experiences with guys who are deliberately seeking out FTMs, very few would be interested in serious dating or finding a relationship with someone who is deliberately looking for a specific body part configuration.

I'd go CL tool.  The bears have found it harder to blend into that aspect of gay culture.

I think Nygeel is talking about the Hanky code?   where you where you put a folded handkercheif in your back pocket, and the color, pattern and which pocket it is in indicates if you are a top or bottom and what you are looking for/ fetish.  http://alt.xmission.com/~trevin/hanky.html

If your looking for Bears, check out a real dating site like bear411.com and do yourself a favor and dont ask any guys you meet about their vaginas, unless you want to get slapped, and not in a fetish kind of way.

Thanks to everyone for your kind, thoughtful and sensitive replies.  God bless!

Quote from: Musclebearphl on March 12, 2011, 07:43:28 AM
First, thanks for your response.  I'm confused though.  I'm not sure about what code you are referring to?

Also, if I may ask, and again, please don't take offense...  are there many f2m transexuals who have transitioned into gay men? 

Also, again... any ideas as to where to meet a f2m would be appreciated.

Hankey code or flagging

There are trans men who are gay. I don't like the phrasing "f2m transsexuals who have transitioned into gay men." They were always gay men (or they realized that they were gay men). You can find gay trans men (and trans men who like men but don't identify as gay) pretty much anywhere.