i just came out to my girlfriend about all this.
stage 1- she claims to be ok with it
stage 2- im selfish and she hates me
stage 3- why would you do this to me
stage 4- i love you but we need to take some time apart
stage 5- really glad you told me
stage 6- lets stay best friends glad i understand and hope you can talk to me in the future

so yeah this eve i went through a slight emotional rollercoaster leaving me single, but ill be ok.
feeling rather fragile but ill be ok 

Hi Joshany!

Your story sounds identical to mine, except that i was married. I could not suppress my feelings any longer and decided to tell my wife.
Stage 1 Like yours
Stage 2 Like yours
Stage 3 Like yours
Stage 4 Similar to yours
She skipped stage 5
Step 6 I got home after work and she was gone, moved out and took almost everything! Recently received my divorce papers. But hey, I am perfectly okay! It is as if a very big weight has been lifted off my shoulders. Finally, yay, I can be my true self. I also went through an emotional rollercoaster, wondering why life has to be so complicated, why could she not accept me for who I am, why, why, why etc.

Sweetie, the fragility passes, and sooner than you think. Think about all the possibilities now! Now, you can be your true self, be who YOU want to be.

You know what? You are going to be just fine! You have a very loving family here.

BIG hug

Maegan

It's has to feel terrible but also a huge step.  You can enter into all future relationships on honest and open ground.   It'll be a stronger foundation.  Equal partners.