is there a plan or way where we can stay focus or steps that can get us to be sure that our trans are successful?

Unfortunately, no. Everyone's journey through life is as individual as they are. You'll have to assess every step to decide how to do it. What works for one may not work for you. When you have more specifics, feel free to ask and you'll no doubt get lots of ideas to work with.

Karen Lyn     

I would think everyone road is the same the way or what they used to get there is different. For example we need surgery and doctor to get our paper work done. We need saving to pay for surgery. We need to know who is good and who is not. How can find way to get a better our own life style?