hey, so how many of you go out dressed as a female? do you go out alone, or with a friend. do you go to partys or to a dinner?
when was the first time you went out and were you alone, or do you went to a crossdresser party?

so how did it all started and who of you lives out of the closet and how does this looks like?

It was kind of a new year's resolution of mine to go out en femme at least once a week.

Basically, I do just about anything I'd normally be doing: going to church (yes, church), shopping, running errands. I try to spend the entire day en femme.

However, I'm at the beginning of transition so for me this is more like RLE lite rather than being cross-dressed. These days, I feel I'm cross-dressed when I'm out as my anatomical gender.

I like to go out, dancing, clubs, shows, and baseball games.

I go out everywhere socially, shopping, pubs, cafes, only dress as a man when there is absolutely no time to change, or when I know I'll have to walk alone in the dark, or at work. Nowadays I basically have to do it because if I don't go out dressed I feel either uneasy (good day) or depressed (bad day). Perhaps that's why like Shades O'Grey I now start to feel crossdressed when go out as a man.

I went out for the first time to a quiz night at a pub with my friends. It was amazing, and once I started, I knew I couldn't stop!

but you consider yourself a crossdresser, don't you?

not a transsexual, right?

I'm a woman. I cross dress to go to work for complicated reasons. Otherwise I dress as fashionably or as daggy as any other woman my age. Or younger .

What is the question behind the question?

That might be easier to address

Cindy

which question? my first one or the second?

I realized I didn't answer the second question.

How it started is a long story. I'm not fully out of the closet at this point, but that's changing.

Quotebut you consider yourself a crossdresser, don't you?

not a transsexual, right?

Hmmm....maybe I'd better stop posting in the crossdresser threads now.....I think I realised I was actually meant to be on the other side of the line (or the blur) about four months back, so my opinions "as a crossdresser" probably don't hold much wieght any more.

That's a lovely new picture in a very pretty dress by the way, Cindy!

Thank you Michelle,

You look really relaxed and very feminine. Looks like a nice garden too. Are you in the UK? I'm in Australia and our gardens are sort of dead at the moment

Cindy

Why thank you, Cindy! Actually that is taken in a small garden in Leichardt NSW, about three weeks ago! I live in the ACT...

Ohh welcome to another 'Sheila"

Cindy

I like to go shopping en femme. Nothing fancy, just girl jeans and belt, nice top, and a little make up. I have gone out this way with my wife and daughters on a few occasions although they like to go their own way at times ;-)

I do go to gender support meetings dressed, usually a little nicer to these, skirt, cardigan, nice tops, a little jewelry, and make up. I like to meet up with a sister that lives near by, and we car pool to the meetings.

Cynthia Ann


 

hey, thanks for your answers!

i have the huuuuge problem that i feel repressed by society. i know that this is "my" problem, because i am the only one who can do something aganst it. but it is exhausting. and the biggest problem is that i feel alone. i have a great family and friends, but no one with "this" problems

It gets easier each time. Nothing like starting today. Pluck up the courage and go for a walk, somewhere safe of course.

Cindy

I am not a cross dresser, rather an MTF, but the first time I dressed in the clothes of the opposite "physical" sex in public I drove around my neighborhood.... It felt exhilarating to finally be free of my 'manly' constraints.  I remember a lot of thing for those brief 10 minutes, but I ended up chickening out and driving back home into the drive way.  Basically, one of the best experiences, but definitely not cross dressing in that sense if you know what I mean.

I used to never go out.  The first time I did it was to the local gay/bi/TS friendly club (one of the best in the city).  I was so nervous I stayed in my car for literally two hours telling myself it would be okay.

Since then it was been Halloween, then once a month, then twice a month.  I go get a new outfit or shoes dressed up to the mall almost every time before those two times I go out every month to the club.  I pass quite well, but it can still be pretty nerve racking when somebody just looks for even a fraction of a second.  I go so much my girlfriend goes with me and we dance all night long.

Think my biggest fear used to be make up, wig, and some parts of my clothes.  I am a pretty fassionable person, but when you go out dressed as the opposite sex, you have to really wear the right stuff in my opinion.  A little after I started, I learned more about make up, got an expensive and amazing wig, and more suitable public clothes.

Wish I started years ago.

  I rarely go 'out' dressed.  when I do, its usually at night or just for a drive.   Having a non-accepting spouse who is pretty much a 'stay at home mom'  means I may get the chance to go out dressed, maybe once a year for a few hours, like today,  twice a year if I am really lucky.  I have a small beard (my wifes idea) so I cant really dress-dress.   My wife does not want me to get rid of it, so I am stuck.  When I do get the chance to go out dressed, I wear everything except wig, nails and make-up.  Also, have to be carefull.  I live in Tennessee and while there may be some  areas that are ok to go to, for the most part, not so.   

My hobby requires that I travel almost every other month, so I always travel en femme. I dont meet the client as Linsey, I save her for my free time.
I always travel alone, but I stay near populated areas. I will rent a room at the location city, occasionally I will take my travel trailer.
I started going out gradually, short walks downtown, dinner at a small resturant, the movie theatres are mostly empty when they first open, I was building my confidence and finally realizing that unless you ae making a spectacle of yourself, people really dont pay much attention to me/us.
I love driving into the gas station and cleaning the windshield, sometimes I'll go into the mini-mart for a drink, my heart raced the first time I did that!
In a resturant, the waitress is always casual and helpful, even asking me where I bought my sweater. I sit and dine, paying no attention to people as they come and go. I eat carefully and slowly.
A sales women at Macy's helped me put together several outfits, I tried all of them on, I also loaded up on lingerie, she asked me to come in to the store dressed.
Several weeks later I went back, dressed, she didn't recognise me!
It gets easier as time goes by.

Quote from: CindyJames on March 17, 2011, 03:43:22 AM
I'm a woman. I cross dress to go to work for complicated reasons. Otherwise I dress as fashionably or as daggy as any other woman my age. Or younger .

What is the question behind the question?

That might be easier to address

Cindy

Ditto