I've had a couple of conversations with people I'm out to, where the topic of having sexual relations comes up.  The questions that were asked were on the order of, "you really want to experience sex as a woman that bad?"

I've explained that, although I want to be sexually capable and enjoy relations (whatever my orientation may be,) I'm not doing this for that.  Having sex as a woman is icing on the cake, I'd probably do this if I could never enjoy sex ever again.

So, with that, what is your deal-breaker?  Would you transition even if you were incapable of orgasm or even of enjoying it to the degree 'average people' (including post-ops) are capable of?

Karen

I chose option C, but only because orgasm is no longer the be all end all that it once was.... while it would be a loss to no longer have that, suffice it to say it's possible to have a good time without it.

Now if your question were what if I couldn't enjoy any kind of sexual intimacy post transition, aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaggghhh don't make me choose.... well I couldn't go back so I guess I'd still have to keep going, but wouldn't be too happy with the results. (Maybe that's because I'm still young?)

Do I need to answer your question, Karen?  don't my other posts speak for themselves?

Orgasm?  what is that?  you know that I don't give a flying fly about sexual feelings, I never did and I never will.

OPTION C ALL THE WAY!!!!!


tinkerbell

Option C for me.  I almost never have orgasms because I almost never think about sex anymore.  It's honestly not something I really miss all that much as it is now.

Melissa

  I couldn't care less about sex.  While the "urge" does occasionally show itself it's basically a minor annoyance.  I haven't been 'sexual' in 5 years and I don't miss it all. 

I chose C twenty years ago.  I didn't care about that.  It never crossed my mind that it would ever be an issue... and I've been lucky.  It isn't.

Cindi

Heh. The results are quite amusing.
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Yep, we are SO in it for the sex.
^*snicker*

I actually find that concept funny as I am far more interested in romance than sex in the first place

I chose B, only because there wasnt an actual answer for me....

Pre HRT, pre transition, sex wasnt fun... it was an act, and it didnt last all that long either.....

Post HRt, sex became fantastic... I dont know it it was part of me or something my ex helped ingrane in me... but I finaly learned to enjoy and actualy want it....  Post HRT orgasms... <not necicarily from "IT"> became beyond fantastic.....  Theres way more than one way to skin a cat and she knew every button to press to get me to that point.....

Id be willing to loose alittle in the post opritive area, but only because I realize that theres allot more to sex than stimulation of one specific area.....

PS  Multiples are fun......  specialy if your partner is good enough to make you roll over and BEG not to be touched....    gods I miss those days.... 

I voted C, but then it's kinda mute now.  I am looking to try it out though

Steph

C), I mean geez.. I haven't experienced that in... a year and a half perhaps? And even then, few and far between. I don't miss it.

STILL, part of the problem was not having a physicality I felt comfortable with sexually, or more accurately: sensually. My desires and needs seem to be evolving as I move along, so I'm open to the possibility that my need to explore my sensuality will continue to grow over time.

Kate

Jeez.... I have lost no Sexual function.

BUT it wouldn't have bothered me If I had, transition was about me being a woman and had nothing to do with sex.

OK,wheres the Rampant Rabbit....

Buffy

Option C, no questions.

Sarah L.

My choice is a no brainer. I opted for C as I'm liveing it. I don't remember how long it has been since I had sex with another person, at least 5-6 years now. I only have my toys that I play with when I'm dilating. I don't miss having sex as a man as much as having intimacy with my wife. I do miss my intimacy with her very much. I think that is what gets me into my depression a lot of the time. I have no one to talk to about this, unless I pay for services. I have no friends.
Sheila

i'll stick with the third option;

QuoteIf I were unable to ever orgasm again, I'd still transition.

Option c, no doubt.

Orgasm? What's that? 

Sex is so NOT a part of my life that I really don't care one way or the other.

For a long time, while I was still under the pernicious influence of the testosterone poisoning I would have been agahst at the thought of losing orgasms.

Not any more!

I think the plumbing still works if I wanted it to, somewhat anyway, but why bother?  Orgasms last how long?  And the rest of life lasts how much longer??

Who needs 'em.

Post SRS - if I ever get there?  Who would want an old broad like me anyway?

hugs & smiles
helen

I love sex. I loved sex before transition, and I will love sex after GRS. I had to give it up for a while, sure. But this doesn't make me assexual.

I don't know. Transition has made me finally comfortable with my sexual identity. I have a sexuality, and I am not afraid to use it. I find sexual attention from men intoxicating, and I can't wait to have the capacity to act on it.

I am sure that after GRS I will enjoy sex with that magical person I will fall in love with, marry and eventually divorce bitterly.

Bri

Quote from: Brianna on February 02, 2007, 05:15:37 PM
I love sex. I loved sex before transition, and I will love sex after GRS. I had to give it up for a while, sure. But this doesn't make me assexual.

I don't know. Transition has made me finally comfortable with my sexual identity. I have a sexuality, and I am not afraid to use it. I find sexual attention from men intoxicating, and I can't wait to have the capacity to act on it.

I am sure that after GRS I will enjoy sex with that magical person I will fall in love with, marry and eventually divorce bitterly.

Bri

That tells me that you are NOT..........................................




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tinkerbell

I don't really know. I never really had much of an interest in sex, but if I could experience it in the right body, it might actually feel right. As it is, I think that male sex is overrated, and I don't think I'd miss it at all.