Ok so
I grew up with the notion that transsexuals were freaks and perverts. And so I kept my urges hidden most of my life.
But when I turned 18 I figured no one can stop me doing what I want anymore and I finally can be the way I want
But my mum naturally notices I'm different and she always like wants to talk about it. She's always trying to make me talk about feelings and ->-bleeped-<-e and once she even asked me "is this about your sexual identity?" and I said "NO."

I know its really retarded but I can't help myself. It makes me so embarrassed, I don't want to talk to her about anything and I deny whatever she tells me. I dunno I just don't like the way she reacts to things, I've never spoken to her about anything.

I'm sorry, I know some of you have REAL problems coming out to your families, I just really needed to vent

Dont let others reactions have so much control over you.

If mom needs to blow up there is no need for you to retaliate. Let her have her moment and move on.

My wife was the same way ... trying to force me to come out ... hold tight when your ready you will tell her.

You have to do what's right for you and when your ready. One thing I will say though, when you need the support you will be thankful that your mum is keen to talk to you. I, and many others I know have parents who wont even entertain talking about the subject.

i'm practically the same i guess. because of that i'm still fighting with the difficulties of talking with others about my transsexuality, and heck i'm already some 3 months on HRT! i'm out to my parents and i still find it hard to talk to them (it's hard to talk about anything personal really)

My mom however was completely clueless so she tried to have doctors confirm to her that as she thought i'm not transsexual (they said the opposite, there's really no big doubt from the short time they had with me) *ehem* anyway
from what you write about your mom she seems worried and is poking around to just see if there's anything she can do. if she even suggested that it might be about sexual identity and didn't insist even more, i think she would take it well.
Just consider that your mom is seeing that her child is hurting and won't say anything and she can't do anything to help. denial when something is clearly wrong just makes her more worried. try to give her anything, it might even be something that doesn't matter that much to you (me, i was failing at university really bad. People just assumed that would be the reason why i'm down) then she might insist less. ah, dunno... hang in there and when you feel ready to talk she'll be there for you

Thanks everyone!

Layn she would accept it for sure, but she would be skeptical, disappointed, and she would be bringing it up every 2 hours. I'm sure I'm close in telling her anyway...
Thanks for your support, and good luck with your own situation telling your friends/family.

Quote from: jussie on April 06, 2011, 06:34:29 PM
I, and many others I know have parents who wont even entertain talking about the subject.

I realise this, and I felt kind of like a douche posting this because of people who have it a lot harder on them. I'm sorry and I hope that you can reach out to your parents somehow.

ok so i've told her today. She tells me she supports me no matter what is wrong with me, but she doesn't believe i'm transgender.

Also why does every single person I come out to says I'll be alone all my life if I transition? I know it's a genuine concern but it seriously pisses me off. I mean, let ME worry about that for you.

rant over, I'm just glad I told her.

Quote from: artur on April 11, 2011, 11:13:42 PMAlso why does every single person I come out to says I'll be alone all my life if I transition?

My parents said that too.

All non-ace transgendered people who have never, ever had a relationship since they came out, raise your hands?
*pins arms to sides* I've had two partners in the year and a half that I've been openly trans, one girl and one boy, and both of them support me fully. It is an issue, yes, but it's not an absolute.

That aside, though, it can take time for parents. Mine are doing okay with it, they call me by my preferred name and pronouns and everything. (unless they're telling stories about my being a baby) But again, that's after a year and a half, and they still have a ways to go in terms of actual transition. (my mom is studying medicine and is worried about all the side effects of T)
A word of advice, I know that you're probably bursting to come out and be accepted and you don't wanna wait, but you DO lose friends that way, at least, I did. Allow time for it to sink in, and a lot of people will come around.

Quote from: artur on April 11, 2011, 11:13:42 PM

Also why does every single person I come out to says I'll be alone all my life if I transition?

I was told that and I know others who have been told that, I and the others I know are not alone and I don't think we ever will be, you included
Aloha.

Jennie

Also why does every single person I come out to says I'll be alone all my life if I transition?


Friends before zilch, friends during/after hundreds.

Not just on line but I have friends phoning me, I call them. I get invites to dinner, drinks, parties, movies.  I had none of this before.

Being yourself is the only way to be.

Cindy

Thanks for your help and advice everyone this is the best community ever.
I feel a lot better. As long as I'm confident and have a little patience I know I can get through this.