Hi everyone here at Susan's I am a guy who wants to be a girl cause i think i have girl trap in a boy body how do I know this well first let me start when i was little one day i remember my mom made me wear my sister under cause all mine where dirty and i didn't have any clean ones to wear and felt right. An other time was when my cuzin dress me up as a girl and made me walk like a girl and it felt right so after that i kept sneaking in to my sister room and takeing her underwear and wearing it I did that up to 11th grade and stop cause it felt like i was a pervert but after high school I start to thinking that maybe i was to meant to be a girl instade of a boy so i started acting like a girl online only for a while then i finaly told my mom and she was not ok with it and so was my dad when i told him so i gave them sometime to think about it and told them again and my mom said she would support me . So I still do act like a girl online and tell people online that i am a girl cause the real me is a girl even if i have a male body witch i hate very much oh and I play this online game and on that game I have friends who think i really am a girl and i also have a boyfriend on that game who loves me very much and we talk alot on facebook on msn messger and he tells me alot how much he loves me and that he would do anything for me and I love him to but I can't be with him in RL cause I still have a male  body . And this sucks cause i really do want to be with him but right now I can't really do anything to be a girl cause I have no job and my moms that only one working so we don't have the money to do that stuff to make me female and I was thinking why can't i just act and dress like a girl till we have the money to do that stuff I told my mom this she told me that i would look werid and that people would make fun of me cause i look to manish. So I just been wearing guys cloths and such but I have grown out my hair and people to mistake me for a girl from a far or from behind and every night befor i go to bed i wish when i get up in the morning that i would be a girl oh and I am 25 years old if i forgot to say that well anyway what should i do?

First off, welcome to the site. Lots of people here ranging from decade :embarrassed:s post op, to people just discovering things about themselves, to just supportive non Transgender people. Now, I don't mean to sound rude, but as I am reading this on a tiny screen that was a wall of text. No one is perfect but try to use punctuation and paragraphs. Makes it alot easier to move from subject to subject. But honestly, no worries on it.

With out getting specific and from you asking what to do I have this to say. What do you want? At the end of the day, you have to be happy with yourself. Do you want to transition? Do you want srs one day? Do you want to take hormones? How will transitions effect your day to day life, as well as long term?  These are things only.you can answer. We can give our opinions and personal experience, but in the end its your quarter used in the game of life.

For example I do not plan to take hormones of have surgery, but I am Transgender. It's just the way my life is and my views that transitioning isn't for me. Others here it was transition for possible suicide. take some time and read around, use the search function to see if people posted similar problems, but never be afraid to ask.a question. even if you think it is stupid....its not. many times someone has asked things I was too afraid to ask, or hadn't even considered yet.

Welcome to Susans, and enjoy. Just follow the few, simple rules and you will have a great support group no matter your path.

Geez, maybe you are a woman. You've said so much without saying anything at all!!
Tell us more specifics, if you don't mind:
How is your social life? What does it comprise of? Who do you get along with on a day to day basis and what is sex like for you?
What are your work/educational/play goals for the next 5 years?
When do you plan on being independent?
Are you repressed or do you express your feelings to someone so you can work out your problems?
What do you eat? And what do you do in an average day?

There you go, I just saved you a couple grand in therapy sessions if you're able to honestly answer all those questions to yourself. You don't even need to post a response here, just give all that some thought and you may be able to decide what is right for you. Good luck!

You're a girl, you don't even pause for breath 

Hi Lexie

Welcome to the forum honey.
First of all, make a longterm plan.
What must be done to be a girl, therapy, hrt maybe ffs, srs, what are the first steps.
I know, money is always an issue.
Try to find a job, no matter what, if you can safe some money it's ok.
Most of us had thoughts when we go to sleep to be waked up as a girl but that's not the way it works.
It takes a lot of hard working, planning and persisting, you know blood, sweat and tears.
In what stage do you see yourself in a years, 2 years, 5 years?
If you really want it, go for it and persist.
Your on-line love?....You can tell the truth and see hoe he reacts...if he stays ok, if he leaves......too bad but than there was never a future for you both.
At least, it's quite safe for you when you tell on-line.

hugs
Annette

Welcome. It seems as English isn't your native language but even native speakers get tripped up on the semantics of expressing themselves as regards being trans. I was never one for liking the term 'x trapped in a y's body'. If you want to transition to living socially as a woman the first thing you need to realise is that YOU ARE A WOMAN already. Have a nice day.

Hi Lexie ...

You know what, I have a feeling that you might need a little bit of a guide to some of the things that the girls on here take for granted. Like, for example, how you might go about 'transitioning' from being a man in society's eyes to being and living as the woman you feel like inside. You're going to have to consider a process that involves a bunch of stuff you might not yet know about - and which is going to cost a whole lot of money unless you live in a country like the UK where the state medical system will pay. So here are a few practical things to think about, pretty much in the order you need to think about them ...

Note to other girls: I know that what follows is VERY over-simplified. But I figure Lexie has to start somewhere. So here goes ... !

1. Get a psychiatrist ... in order to have female hormones prescribed, let alone get your final surgery, you need the approval of a qualified psychiatrist (and probably a doctor as well). The fact is, gender-reassignment is a huge commitment and doctors will not assist you to achieve it unless they know you are a suitable case. And the way they make sure that you are (and also cover themselves against getting sued if you decide you didn't want to transition after all) is to have letters of support from qualified gender specialists.

2. Get rid of your facial hair. I don't know how heavy your beard is, but I'm guessing it's heavier than a natural-born girl! There are two main ways to remove hair: laser and electrolysis. You'll find a ton of stuff about both of them on here.

3. Take female hormones: that's what people here mean by HRT (which stands for hormone replacement therapy). You cannot transition without blocking your male hormones - principally testosterone - and effectively replacing them with female ones - principally estrogen and/or progesterone. The effects of these hormones are very powerful: your skin will soften ... your body hair (but not your facial hair) will become much much finer and less visible ... you will lose a great deal of your male muscles and strength ... your testicles will shrink and eventually become infertile ... your waist will (probably) grow smaller and you will (probably) grow breasts and start to put on fat as a woman does round your hips and thighs. After six months or so, many of these effects will be irreversible. The only safe way to take hormones is via prescription drugs. You need a doctor to give you a prescription. And he/she is very unlikely to do that without support from a psychiatrist/therapist, saying that you should receive this treatment.

4. Train your voice ... one of the biggest ways we identify a person's gender is through there voice. Women have higher voices and are much more varied in the way they pitch their voice. Briefly, when a man wants to emphasize a point, his voice gets louder. When a woman wants to emphasize a point, her voice gets higher (and louder, too, often enough!) ... You can get a lot of help with your voice online and on this site. But you have to work really hard on it i you want to be able to live as a woman. Speaking of which ...

5. Live as a woman. You cannot have SRS (sex reassignment surgery) unless you have lived as a woman for at least 12 months. This is what is known as RLE (real life experience) ... and it is exactly what it says. You get a female name. You change all your ID papers to reflect that you are now effectively female (different states and countries have different rules about your precise legal status as a man or woman at this point). You dress, act, present yourself, go to work, go to college, socialise, date, the whole works as a woman. This is a vital test to make sure that this is what you really want. As you will see from posts on this forum, people can and do have second thoughts about transitioning ... even when they have gone a very long way down the track and totally 'pass' as a woman (in other words, no one mistakes them for a man).

6. SRS ... if you decide that you do want to complete your transition to a female form, the final step is the surgery that replaces your penis and testicles with a vagina. Again, there is a ton of information and discussion about this ion the forum.

A few other terms you may see ...

BA = breast augmentation, or to put it simply, a boob-job. This will give you the breasts that nature and hormones cannot.

FFS = facial feminization surgery. There are many procedures that can remove some of the typical features of a male face - eg. heavy brow, jaw and chin - and replace them with more feminine features, such as a smoother forehead, more delicate nose and jaw, fuller cheekbones and higher, more arched brow. There are also procedures to make your mouth and lips more feminine and to reduce the size of your Adam's apple.

Oh ... and here's another set of letters ... MTF ... or male-to-female.

That's us, sweetie. Welcome to the club!