There have been some threads lately dealing with marriage, spouses, children, and the challenges they present during transition. I was wondering how many of us were married in our previous incarnations?
Since most people under a certain age are less likely to married regardless, please indicate yes or no for under 21.
The poll is applicable for all stages of transition.
Feel free to elaborate in your post.
Thanks. 

Never married and I'm 36, impossible to marry with that dysphoria going on in that region.  It's different for other people, there's willpower to overcome because of the social conditioning to marry, or even being happy enough but knowing something else is what they really need.

LOL i chose other

married 20 days  then she told me i was too femme for her even though i had a cabin in mountains on 200 acres and cut firewood etc etc

she got pregnant and he is now almost 14


i transitioned right after she left me in late 90's

I partially transitioned in childhood. Then de-transitioned in my late teens on the encouragement of a so called therapist. When I was a university student my church encouraged me to get married as a "step of faith" which would lead to my healing.

I was thus married under 21 for a few years during which time I was slowly disintegrating. Sex was disgusting to me and thankfully no children resulted. By the time I was 23 the marriage was effectively over and retransition and SRS followed almost immediately.

Two kids aged 22 and 19, married 22.5 years and my transition is beginning.

Was married with children before transition, but was divorced prior to the transition process.


Jay

Married, no children.
Still married.

Not a CHANCE! I never even dated! I had lots of female friends but never! I never even thought of girls in that way. (It wasn't until 2 years after SRS/transition that I had my first Lesbian experience and THAT FREAKED ME OUT!!!! LOL!)

Funny, in my last relationship, I was legally married but kept it a secret because I didn't really consider myself to be married, but in my previous relationship, I wasn't legally married, but I considered myself married.

No kids.  Never been married.  I haven't even been on a date in over six years.

Nero. Marry me. Sincerely, Meghan

Hehe

married with children x4 3 are adults transition on going one year spouse has been aware of it for 6 months.
jess

Married for 2 years, separated for nearly 4, was starting to look into amicable divorce last summer when my PTSD kicked in (coincidence!) and distracted me.

I'm now getting around to telling my ex-wife about my transition before relaunching divorce plans, since it may eventually come to an annulment instead of a divorce, but we may rather divorce sooner anyway.

I met my wife at 18 and we were married by 20, but we never had children. Before her I was with a number of men and girls, and I am not proud to say, I was also with a number of men during our marriage. We stopped sleeping in the same room when we turned 22, and we stopped having sex at about the same time. We're 33 now. We've always been emotionally close though, regardless of the physical aspect.

I recently moved out after 15 years together. It's hard, but she made it clear that if I continue with my transition she can no longer be with me. Combined with the fact that I much prefer men, well, I think it was inevitable that the marriage would end. I don't at all regret our time together - all things come to an end.

I was married three times and have four adult children.  They all know and at least two accept me.

I just got married in order to get a residence permit here. I don't know if this count's as a 'real' marriage.

Quote from: Shades O'Grey on April 21, 2011, 03:55:07 PM
Two kids aged 22 and 19, married 22.5 years and my transition is beginning.

I'll add a bit more history.

I was 16 when I met my wife, and 19 when I married her (she was 18 at the time). Now we're 41 and 40 respectively.

i was married for over 30 years & have 3 grown sons & 4 grandchildren.
My son's are coming around with the encouragement of my brothers,their uncles
who have been extremely supportive.
My mother on the other hand thinks it's a phase & I'll go back to my old life..ha

Franci

Was married from 28 to 30 to somebody with whom I was almost totally incompatible and only knew for three months.  It was a rebound relationship that went too far because I was struggling with persistent suicidal ideation and intense gender dysphoria.  Rather than be true to myself and admit the obvious (I could have transitioned at 27! Grr!) I made the stupid move of thinking that a marriage would make it all go away.

That'll learn me... at the very least, we never had children.  You have to have a sexual relationship for that to be possible, and I never could stand the thought of using my biology in that way.

I'm 37 and have been Married for 11 years, together for 17 years. Two kids age 6 and 14months. I have been on HRT five months. She doesn't like that I need to transition but understands and has seen me suffer with the GID since we have been together. She is going to try and stay with me through transition but says that she isn't sure if she can still be with me as a woman. I guess that is about as fair of a deal a you can really expect to get with this whole thing. Other than that we have an excellent relationship.