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What makes you want to be female?

Started by Cody Jensen, April 19, 2011, 04:56:02 PM

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Maddie Secutura

Quote from: Amy1177 on April 22, 2011, 10:10:49 PM
Carlita - very well put I feel much the same way.  Though in taking it to the very essense that makes each of us who we are I believe that we come into life to experience it and all the ups and downs that come with it.  We are feminine souls before we come here and we wanted to experience life from both genders but we also knew before we got here that we would be able to normalize our bodies with our souls before going home

Which would create a hormonal imbalance causing the brain to develop contrary to the body.


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Tara L

Every thing in opposite to your desire to be FTM. What do I desire about MTF, all of the Female life.
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kyril

Quote from: yoxi on April 22, 2011, 02:33:15 PM
Heh, I hope one day I'll be using the Human XP hardware :).
I'm partial to Human 7.


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Padma

Quote from: kyril on April 23, 2011, 02:04:16 AM
I'm partial to Human 7.
Actually, I'm going to be wanting mine open source :). (I know, but I want my hardware to be software...)
Womandrogyneâ„¢
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Rock_chick

I don't want to be female, i am female. I just don't want the rest of the world to foolishly think i'm a boy
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kimberrrly

I dont want to be female, I am female..
I seriously dont want to be female...
I would like to be a straight male :)
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VeronikaFTH

Quote from: Britney♥Bieber on April 20, 2011, 08:42:29 PM
I wouldn't say that I want to be female. A lot of times I tell people I don't want to transition, I really don't. I was just born in the wrong body and to live a full life I must become the woman I am. It's as simple as that. I mean sure the makeup and hair and clothes etc are fun, but after a while the whole point is being a woman. Not dressing or acting or walking or talking or looking like one thinks a woman should, but feeling like a woman. It makes my life easier, makes me more comfortable with myself etc.

You've hit this one right on Britney. I just had a similar conversation the other day with my mother. I don't want to have to transition. I simply have to at this point. I would have rather had my brain and body in alignment in the first place, and not had to deal with all this. Male or female, as long as everything was aligned I'd probably have been happy. Of course I'm a bit more partial to the female, since that's what I am, but I suppose theoretically that I'd have been fine with being male too, as long as everything matched up and that's how I felt.


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V M

I never wanted to be male or female... But then again, I often wish my mother and father would have never met and/or my mother would have had an abortion

But here I am on this stupid planet trying to deal with it all as best as possible
The main things to remember in life are Love, Kindness, Understanding and Respect - Always make forward progress

Superficial fanny kissing friends are a dime a dozen, a TRUE FRIEND however is PRICELESS


- V M
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azSam

I don't want to be female. I AM female, I am just making some various adjustments. Doesn't change who I am though.
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kate durcal

Quote from: Josh T on April 19, 2011, 04:56:02 PM
Anyways, what I want to know is what makes you ladies want to be female? I am a biological female

Because I am a biological female too. The part of the human brain that ascribes gender was, in my case determined -genetically- female, it is just that the external genitalia and karyotype (XY) does not match my brain. The former, a medical condition, is currently being fix; for the second one there is currently no fix.
So it is not that I want to be female, I am female

Kate

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tori319

If I could choose I'd want to be a man. I don't want to be a woman, but I do want to be content with myself and I can't identify with my body as it is now. I don't envy the way women are treated in our society but it's something I'll deal with when I have to. It's not about want for me at all. It's about necessity.
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kimberrrly

I saw an interview with Nico today, she said, my only regret is that I was not born a man,
and I totally feel the same way lol

"Why do you want to be a woman?"
Somehow people really dont believe in genderidentityproblems that ask those questions...

yeah I am messing around with hormones and the health of my body, I like to deal with the social
stress each day, be in a very difficult position when it comes to love and have a malfunctional sexuality all
because you know, I really want to...

lol
Perhaps I even more so would like to be a male then female to male transsexuals LOL
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Sarah B

Fedora is a girls (feminine) name and is of Italian and Greek origins.  While 'Core' means, 'the basic, essential, or enduring part of an individual'.  So l'm most definitely 'Fedora to the Core' or more simply, I'm a Fedora Core fan.

Kind regards
Sarah B
Be who you want to be.
Sarah's Story
Feb 1989 Living my life as Sarah.
Feb 1989 Legally changed my name.
Mar 1989 Started hormones.
May 1990 Three surgery letters.
Feb 1991 Surgery.
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lauren3332

I look at myself different than most.  As a kid I was a man.  I like and enjoyed being a man, but now I am woman.  How is this possible? No one really knows.  I was babied as a kid and I lived a sheltered life, so I didn't think much about this type of thing.  After my mother died, I had to grow up.  My TSism just developed through time.  Someone might ask, if your gender changed once, then it can change back?  I prefer my gender to be thought of like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly.  The butterfly can't go back to being a caterpillar.  It doesn't matter what I was before, I am am woman now, and forever will be.  The only other answer is that I had an undeveloped gender identity which matured through time. 
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Joelene9

  I dunno, it is just the feeling I had the most of my life.  With the recent taking of the female HRT, things started to come into place.  My emotional swings I had disappeared and the ride is smoother now. 
  The previous blood test results had my PSA numbers over the top.  Now it is nearly non-existent.  The high non-hormonal organ functions levels that were off the year before are normal now.  They would of needed separate serious expensive medications for those. I really don't know what happened really, but the coincidence is there anyway.   The results of my tests I received today: https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,97317.0.html  My 4-year cancer scare is over!
  Joelene
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Rachel Bellefountaine

I want to simply because I am. I've been female my whole life. Right now it's just a matter of making my body reflect that. :)






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Maddie Secutura

I've always found it helpful to assert the mechanism behind the claim.  As an empiricist a claim must be backed up with some form of proof.  To simply claim to be female (when one has a male body) would fall into absurdity were there not a distinct medical cause.  That is why I bring up the brain wiring.  It's not that I find it more desirable to be female.  I have no choice but to identify as such because my brain is hardwired to function that way.  It's not something I can help and if I had my choice, I would have had a male brain to go with a male body.  But since I can't change my brain, I have to change the body to simply be more comfortable with myself.  It may not be the most eloquent way of putting it, but I find it a better answer than simply, "Just because."


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Anaeta_Desiree

I know the reason I am transitioning is that for 36 years as a male I tried to fit in and never succeeded because i did not have a lot of upper body strength no matter how hard I tried.   That led me to become more angry, hateful, racist, intolerant of not just others but myself to the point that it was either transition or die...  while some of my personality issues and societal problems may stem from my mental conditions i was diagnosed as Bi-polar and PTSD, but deep down I never fit in. 

While I know that I face a long road as far as the hormones, surgeries etc; now that I live full time as a female and have from day 1 of my transition, I am a much happier. tolerant, accepting woman and can look back and resolve the issues that led me to believe as I did..  some issues were very simple to deal with because the individuals in those groups I belonged to would turn on me just as fast as they would as their intended targets. 

bottom line is that I refuse to live life in fear of what may happen and instead be true to myself and that has led to me being a much better woman.
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Maddie Secutura

Quote from: Sarah7 on April 24, 2011, 10:32:41 AM
Before you started transitioning, if that choice had been available to just rewrite your brain and make your GID disappear... you'd have said yes?

As difficult as my life may still be sometimes, I no longer want to die, and I have a hard time seeing the difference. Male-me... would not be me. I'd rather keep my FE software and swap out the hardware.

I can honestly say I would have said yes.  It would have generated far less stigma than my current treatment.  I am happy now being who I am, but if I could have been able to modify who I am to match who everyone else sees, that would have been the easier path.


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rejennyrated

Quote from: Maddie Secutura on April 24, 2011, 01:44:49 PM
I can honestly say I would have said yes.  It would have generated far less stigma than my current treatment.  I am happy now being who I am, but if I could have been able to modify who I am to match who everyone else sees, that would have been the easier path.
But far less fun surely...  :laugh:

Actually seriously I think the problem for most of us is that if such a psyche alteration were possible then it would have made us mentally into someone else - and I actually quite like being me, even though it meant transition. Heck come to think of it I even enjoyed transitioning.
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