Needless to say, coming out to my family has been one of hardest things I have ever had to resort myself to do. I haven't told all of them, but I just came out to my dad an hour ago.

And he was perfectly fine with it. He says I have his support 100 percent. He said that he has been around the block a few times, and that this wasn't exactly the first time he had dealt with a trans person. He has had friends whose children are transgender. He said that he loves me, and only wants me to live to my fullest potential. I was barely able to talk from how hard I was crying. I had been soo afraid of loosing my family because of this, and loosing him especially. After our conversation ended, I collapsed crying. I have never felt that so right in doing something. I have never believed in myself, and it is finally happening. With my dad's support, even if everyone else in family abandons me, I know I can do this. I can finally live my life the right way.

Wow... congratulations!  What a fantastic response you got. 

And I perfectly understand what you're feeling right now.  I know my own dad is going to abandon me for this, so when I came out to my stepdad, it was with the nervousness that without him, I'd have no father.  So I told him, and he simply smiled and told me that he loved all of his kids, no matter what we are or what we do.  Then I asked if I could take his last name and he gave me his blessing to do so.  I cried that night too.

I'm really happy for you, what a great Dad you have

I am sorry to hear about your biological father. And I am glad that your step-dad acted more like the genuine article.

This is really big for me. I don't have to hide anymore. I am separating from my wife, and staying with my family, while not ideal, is something that I really need. Now that I don't have to hide from them, it won't feel like hell living with them. Well, not a special hell, just a normal, living-with-family hell. It also means I can afford to take care of transition, catch up on bills, and most importantly, take care of my daughter while doing the other two. It also means I can afford to jump back into school full time come fall.

I can simply start going out and find myself, be myself, and be the best parent for my child. My dad may never know what a huge kindness he paid me. Funny how such a small, silly thing as acceptance can free others around you.

Awesome news.  It is always great when family stands in our corner.

Heres to an awesome dad!!! 

Just lovely,  just be a fantastic daughter for him. You both deserve it.

BTW you are a very cute looking lady. How do you pretend to be a guy?


Hugs

Cindy

Quote from: CindyJames on May 05, 2011, 06:38:17 AM
Just lovely,  just be a fantastic daughter for him. You both deserve it.

BTW you are a very cute looking lady. How do you pretend to be a guy?

Ha! For a couple good reasons. For one, I am pre-everything. Also, I  6'2, and still weigh 230lbs. My body is in about the most complete dissasociation with my ad it could be. My men would kill for my size and build. I could break necks like twigs, but I'd much rather hug them. So it goes.

And thanks again to everyone for the kind words. If anyone has a positive story about coming out to family, please share it!

Hugs

Cindy

That is wonderful!
Having your father behind you will be a big boon to your transition.
Also by living at home you can more easily learn the expected gender roles and the intricacies of how they work in your family.